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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NOT ACCEPTABLE.

She said she was having "a few friends" over.
In reality she was having 20 people.  That's a "party"  that is not "a few friends".

Now, maybe things would've been fine, and the house wouldn't have been destroyed, etc. etc.  but at the very least here, you have a breach of trust, and I would call her out on it.

I'd say:  "Look.  I was really upset to learn that you were going to have 20 friends over while I was out of town-- especially when you told me you were having "a few friends".  In my book, 20 people is a party.  But regardless of whether you intended it to be a party or not, it was vastly more than the "few" friends you told me about.  I want you to feel free to have friends over, but I am not comfortable having you hosting parties in my house when I'm not here.  If there is a special occasion, and you REALLY want to have a big group, we need to talk about it, and you need my approval in advance.  Otherwise I expect you to keep the number of friends in my house to a reasonable number -- i.e., no more than 3 or 4 at a time withouth talking to me.  Capiche?"

Seriously, I'd read her the riot act.  That is a hugely bad sign.  If she's awesome with your kids, you might overlook it (although how can you overlook the trust issue?), but if she's mediocre or new, I'd put her in rematch.  It just sends all sorts of bad signs up for me about what she's here for.  And I can almost guarantee that if she's having 20 friends, they're really not all people she knows.  You're going to have strangers in your house, [b]possibly men,[/b] and God only knows what will happen.[/quote]

Oh lawd, not men!?!? Lol. I agree with most of what you're saying PP but that last line made me lol.[/quote]

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