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[quote=Anonymous]I have started a new job with a wonderful little girl. I am a live in due to DB's hectic schedule. Since I have family in the town over, the DB is okay with the child coming with me, when I have events as she will mostly be with me. I was hired on to try and give the child some stabilization in her life. Her parents went through what I believe was a very chaotic divorce. MB is not in the picture except on holidays.  DB has primary custody and he travels frequently. I don't know much else as not much else was given to me regarding their situation. I just know that it feels like everyone in the neighborhood also knows their dirty laundry, as I have received a few comments and a lot of stares. I walked to the park with her, which is at the edge of the neighborhood. There was a woman starting at us for a while before she asked me if I was her relative; I told the lady I was the child's nanny. She asked me how I like  the neighborhood and I said, I liked if but just don't know anyone. DB did mention some friends we can play with in a near neighborhood, but he seemed adamant about few neighbors but said if she insist on playing with her friends, then let her as long as Im supervising. The women then mentions that she hopes things workout for A. She said it felt it was for my own good to fill me into what was going on so I didn't feel out of the loop. She stated DB had an affair with a mom from the street and that MB had a mental breakdown, since the marriage was on the rocks. The lady mentioned that the mom moved away, but everyone knew about the affair as t was a big neighborhood scandal since the moms hung out together. The lady said after everything went down, MB shut down and distanced herself from friends since she couldn't trust anyone. This women also said some women from the neighborhood still keep in touch with DB's mistress, and told me who to be wary of. I now understand the situation and even though it seems like it was in the past, due to the situation their life and the child's life has changed dramatically. How can I handle the stress of letting her have freedom without feeling like I always need to protect her from things I can't? I know she went through something tough but I don't want her to become excluded from friends in the neighborhood because of the stigma of her family. How can I help navigate through this maze ? I'm not sure who trust but being able to confide in someone around here, would be great. I don't want to look at all neighbors like enemies. [/quote]

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