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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's hard when you had gotten used to a great AP and then your new one comes along.

I do understand how you find yourself in this predicament after 6 months.  My first AP was a gem.  I never had any qualms about the care she was giving my DDs.  She really loved them and they loved her back.  That was obvious.  She was more of a homebody and at least partly due to having a serious boyfriend back home suffered from quite a bit of homesickness (which called on me to mother her somewhat) and only got more adventurous and out of the house toward the end.  So, she wasn't perfect but she really was a gem.  When AP2 started, the difference was apparent that she was not homesick and not going to be hanging around at home constantly - which is what we wanted after some time dealing with homesickness in the beginning with AP1.  But, there wasn't the same affectionate connection with DDs.  I figured that my DDs were new to her and she was new to DDs.  Plus they were probably suffering a bit from missing beloved AP1.  Still, I had the gut feeling that AP2 was just more distant and was not going to be a great AP - "fine" but not great.  My DH told me that I was expecting too much, as of course there's a learning curve and it's unfair to compare AP2 in month 1 or 2 to AP1 as she was by the end of a year.  Thing is, we're now in month 5 and my gut feeling is playing out exactly as I thought it would.  I think AP2 is fine.  I don't worry about the care.  But she doesn't hold a candle to AP1.  That's OK, I'm definitely not considering rematch but while I had initially hoped to get an AP who would extend (because the goodbye with AP1 was so hard), I'm now thinking about calling it quits at one year.  We'll see how things pan out over the next few months.

So long story to say how I understand how 6 months have gone by and you find yourself considering rematch at this point.  [/quote]

Thanks PP.  I really appreciate this comment.  You're right about the gut feeling thing - I KNEW in the first month what our issues were going to be.  But it's hard to evaluate someone based on an assumption, so I just sort of let it go on and things kept slipping just a little about every day.  Appreciate your understanding![/quote]

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