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[quote=Anonymous]MB here with 19 mth old b/g twins.  Mine don't have any delays but other than that every single word of your post is true in our house also.

I have been considering the harnesses so I know where you're coming from.  I don't think it would hurt to discuss it w/ the MB.  I'd love to have perfectly behaved kids who hold my hands and walk safely, but I don't - at least not yet.  So I'm thinking about a harness as a way to keep them safe.  Definitely worth a conversation.  If my nanny wanted them I would completely understand - their safety trumps everything and I consider this an example of something like that.

Re the behavior - he sounds pretty normal - especially if he's delayed in communication.  As other posters said, a lot of the behavioral acting out is driven by frustration at not being able to communicate.  If you can try to see if from that perspective it can make it a little easier to tolerate.  (The idea of trying a bit of sign language is a  very good one.  If he picks up and uses a few signs you'd quickly get a sense of whether communication frustration is at the heart of his behavior.)  My girl is verbal, holds hands, is relatively calm, etc...   My boy does the same flopping to the ground routine, bites, hits, doesn't use the handful of words he does have, throws tantrums etc...

Quite a bit of that is very normal developmental stuff for boys and girls and the majority of it will go away over time (especially given calm, consistent redirection of energy).  Also, w/ twins it's pretty common for one of them to take the lead on communication and interaction, and my son is certainly lazier than my daughter so we see that playing out w/ his language skills.

In any case, he IS NOT AN AWFUL KID!!!  Jeez!!!  He's a normal little boy who is trying to find his way in a world where he can't yet communicate.  That's awfully tough.  Just try to hang in there until he catches up w/ himself.  (And redirect, redirect, redirect on all the hitting and biting.  That is brutal.  I've been reduced to tears by the abuse on particularly awful days!!)  It will get better though, and if your twin charges are anything like mine the boy will offer the sweetest hugs and cuddles (when he's in the mood) that help mitigate some of the behavioral stuff.

Good luck!!![/quote]

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