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[quote=Anonymous]Thanks, 10:51.  I think you've hit the nail on the head with why I'm struggling with this - it shows a lack of maturity, judgement, and self-awareness that she's even asking so frequently and at really bad times.  She'll ask me as soon as I get in the door or when I'm sitting there with guests that just came into town.  Or when I'm in the middle of making dinner with the toddler at my feet after working all day.

She knows the terms we matched on and she sees DH and I taking the Metro or walking almost every day.  When we have a date to the same downtown area she goes to, we walk.  When we run a quick errand, we Metro.  When we take the kids to an activity, we Metro.  I guess I was hoping she'd see that, realize that a family will have a need for the car being generally available for emergencies and classes and stuff, and stick to our original terms.

So I don't feel like sitting her down and leveling with her will make her understand - she'll just feel like I'm being restrictive.  And it's difficult to set specific rules for when she can have the car, so she'll see my "rules" as arbitrary - it's not that she can't take it more than once a week or only after a specific time or anything like that.  I just need her to be aware of what she's asking and able to assess her own NEED for the car instead of just a WANT.

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