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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't worry about being harsh - I need solutions. But I don't think the employer/employee relationship is analogous to having children. I know what's best for them and I know they don't necessarily, so I don't have the same issue saying no to my kids. I don't feel the same way with them at all. My AP isn't a child - she's 24.  I'm not responsible for shaping her personality or keeping her safe. [/quote]

Great response! That's helpful.

What is it that she doesn't like about the metro? Does she feel unsure of herself navigating it? If she has a smart phone, there are a few apps that have things like the map on it. Maybe printing out a map for her would be helpful too. 
I think there are also websites that tell you what is at the various metro stops. 
Is it the cost of the metro? Could you offer to recharge her metro card from time to time to help offset the cost?

I'm sure it is hard to say no, and you sound like a very accommodating host mom, but she needs to be understanding too. 
Would it work to schedule 2 days a month (one weekend, or separate days?) where she can for sure have the car? And other days, she might have it, but she might have to make other arrangements too?[/quote]

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