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[quote=Anonymous]Since becoming a host mom I've realized just how difficult it is for me to say no and how much it bothers me when someone is irritated with me. I think this would be true of being anyone's "boss."  We really and truly are good host parents and definitely to above and beyond to make our AP feel comfortable. We have flexibility with the schedule, she only works 25 hours a week, we live right in a great area of the city, we have an open door friend policy, etc.

But there are of course times when we've had to say no to a schedule change or to a request to use the car or something like that. It's really nothing big - she wants to take our shared car for the day on a Sunday that we need it (we live right by a Metro but she doesn't like the Metro, so she always wants the car - yes, she knew that we expected her to use the Metro when possible when we matched and yes, we do that ourselves).

For whatever reason it kills me to say no. To the poit where I'd rather rearrange my own life to accommodate her preference against the Metro.  Which kills my husband. And then I get (unfairly) irritated with her for putting me in the position of having to say no. And then I stew about it for a while and get worried that she's unhappy.

I can see this getting worse as she is here longer and I need to find a solution. Does anyone else have trouble with the "employer" side of the relationship? I really enjoy the "part of the family" part. [/quote]

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