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[quote=Anonymous]Can you bring it up in terms of the child? Like if you say, "You know DC and I really enjoy your company, but he's beginning to disregard my requests and I don't think he appreciates my authority anymore. It is really disruptive for our routine and our relationship when he always has you available to turn to - is there a way we could start to set some time aside when you won't be there, so he'll know that he can depend on me as the reliable adult in charge? I think this is really important especially since I'll be taking over FT care for him again in the fall." You can also frame it in terms of yourself - "MB, I really enjoy spending time with you and I know DC does too, but I'm beginning to feel a bit useless since you are always around to handle his needs and address all of his concerns." and then let her speak.

I dunno, I worked for an MB who did this but she was self-aware enough to bring it up with me and asked me to let her know when it became disruptive for the kids. I did, and things got a little better (not completely), but it was at least something we could talk about. My strategy when she was around was just to go completely hands-off. 4yo hitting his brother? I just watch. 2yo throwing water on the floor? I don't say a word about it. Eventually she got the message that their behavior was fine with me, okay with her, and TERRIBLE when we were both there, and now she doesn't interrupt us during my shifts at all.[/quote]

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