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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can't keep her from talking to other APs. You can be clear up front how you do things and what you have to offer, but have you considered that maybe the way you're doing things warrants some reconsideration? If your way/what you're offering is so vastly different from the other families in the program, you will continue to have this problem and gain a reputation. Similarly to the family on the block known to all the nannies to underpay and overwork. [/quote] Agreed, though if the family is within the guidelines of the program - both letter and spirit - flexible and generous to the extent they can be, generally warm and nice ppl, etc. there may not be a lot of room for "reconsideration." For instance, sometimes family situations are just different. If the majority of families in the neighborhood with au pairs have school-age kids, and the au pair only works 30ish hours/week because of that, but this OP has young children who are home all day and therefore works all 45 hours, there isn't much the family can do to make the au pair's situation better in that respect. Or if other neighborhood families have an extra car for the au pair, but the OP's family doesn't and can't afford one, also not much they can do. But - if there are things that can easily be changed, certainly it's worth looking into for next time. But OP - I don't think you should let yourself fall into the trap of trying to compete with other families that you can't compete with.[/quote]
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