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[quote=Anonymous]Wow - that doesn't sound very pleasant.

I think you could ask them to tell you how they feel about your performance, are they happy with what you're doing, are they comfortable with your relationship with the baby, etc...

You could say that you're very glad to have the opportunity for this review because you've been uncertain how they feel about your work.  Maybe that could open the door for some conversation about more regular communication or feedback.  You could ask for 5 minutes once a week to just touch base, or 15 minutes once a month to sit down and touch base etc... (whatever they seem to be comfortable with)

Re the b'day party - it's hard to tell what was behind the lack of invite.  Maybe they're incredibly private people?  Maybe they feel really strongly about an employer/employee professional relationship and are not aware you might actually want a bit more interpersonal involvement?  Maybe they have read too much DCUM and think they're doing a good thing by bending over backwards to have a strictly professional, non-personal approach?!  :-)  Anyway - hard to tell what's going on in their heads, though presumably you would have heard about it if they were unhappy with your performance.

In terms of the party thing, I don't know that I'd bring that up specifically, but what you could do is ask if they would comfortable with you attending a birthday party this year if they have one.  You can approach it gently "I understand if you only want family or a small group of course, but if you were ok with it I would love to be included."  Or something like that.  You can't push beyond that but maybe they'd be surprised you even want to be included and would be happy to do so.

It doesn't sound like the happiest working environment for you overall though.  I hope the yearly review conversation helps and leads to warmer interactions.

Good luck.
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