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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is the OP. I'd still love to hear from parents with regard to my original questions.

This is such a weird thing to go through, in the sense that it almost feels like *my* family is breaking up. Even though that is not the case, and I'm not trying to make it about me, the nanny-employer relationship is such a unique one.

I am remaining strong and supportive of the parents and children, but it is a pretty big emotional burden to bear. No one else knows yet, so I can't really lean on anyone for support. It's such a difficult thing to try to explain, anyway -- how hard it is for me. Obviously I'm not going to go to my employers for support.[/quote]

I've never been in your situation OP but from your post it seems like you're too emotionally wrapped up in this. I know its hard when you care about them but you need to separate yourself from it. This is not your family, its not your divorce, and its not your emotional burden to bear. Your job remains the same as it always has; to care for the children to the best of your abilities. As for how you can be helpful, keep doing your best, communicate with both parents about their children but don't get wrapped up in their private lives, and be a happy stable distraction for the kids doing your best to keep this experience from aging them. [/quote]
Let me guess, you are not a nanny. Your advice is unrealistic. OP, can you get a counselor or therapist to help navigate this minefield?[/quote]

Actually I am. What about my post do you take issue with? Are you trying to say her emotional involvement is normal?[/quote]
Please define 'family', as you see it.[/quote]

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