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[quote=Anonymous]   I've always managed to have at least descent employers.  I see a lot of nannies on here who have (or think they have) MB from Hell.  Never have I encountered these monster MB, but what I have dealt with is the Grandmothers.

My current job is caring for three LO under 5.  I love these children, and the parents are fantastic and very smart.  However, I absolutely dread it when DB's mother comes to visit.  She HATES me.  She hated me before she met me, and after she met me she LOATHED me.  Why?  Because her grand babies prefer me over G-Ma.  It's not because I want them too, trust me...I would do anything to settle the tension between the two of us, I'm just a very active part of their lives.  She lives out of state, see's them for a week every couple of months and you really can't build a strong relationship with children without being physically there.  If I could just avoid her, it would be fine, but when she does visit I continue my shift which really rubs her the wrong way.  I can understand, she feels as if MB/DB do not trust her with her own grandchildren.  I would be very offended if my son and DIL didn't trust me with my grand babies.  She makes my life a living Hell when she stays the week, HELL!  I have done everything in my power to please her, I really have.  I try to get her as much one on one time with the charges as I can without breaking my duties to my employers.  She is constantly finding ways in which I've done detrimental damage to the children, I usually just laugh it off later but over the past year or so it's escalated to a point I just can't handle.

The week after Christmas DB's mother was stay for two weeks.  I was refreshed from my break, so I just decided to muscle through.  It was tough, very tough, and 10X tougher for MB.  One evening Grandmother was bathing the two oldest children and noticed that one of the LO had numerous bruises.  She automatically went off and started accusing me of literally beating the child, not even thinking that the LO was new to walking, and not yet very graceful.  I was in a shock of sorts, and was trying to calm her down as well as the children who were now in hysterics.  She called DB, and he calmed her down and then just ignored me the rest of the evening.  When DB returned I left, but called MB and told her we needed to have a serious discussion.  I told her that if something like that EVER happened again I would quit and sue DB mother and her traducement statements.  I know that was extreme, but I take my reputation very seriously.

I hoped that Grandmother would only visit when DB or MB was off so I wouldn't have to deal with it, but earlier this week I found out she is staying for a few days next week.  I don't think I can mentally/emotionally deal with this women, I don't think it's a wise idea for the children to be in that environment with the two of us.  I have a friend who is currently between jobs, and looking for a temporary position.  Do you think it would be appropriate for me to suggest my nanny-friend work with the children during Grandmothers stage?  I know they don't have many back-up caregivers, and since Grandmother would be there it's not as if they are leaving the children with a stranger.

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