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[quote=Anonymous]I have been working for two families in a nanny-share (two babies under 2) for 4 months now, and have already used 3 sick days, and will need 7 out of 10 vacation days over the summer. In addition, there have been a couple of instances where I came in late or took one of my charges with me to doctor appointments. This all started about a month after I took this job. I have not had a clear diagnosis for my issues (chronic pain, fevers, horrendous periods) so have not given any explanation to my employers. About a month ago I was treated for a condition and thought that at last this was the end of it. I told my bosses and and we let out a sigh of relief that we could all get back on track. Then, over the weekend I experienced so much pain all of a sudden that I lost consciousness and was rushed to the hospital. I was fanally diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis. The pain subsided over then next day and I came back to work on Monday. The pain is now somewhat under control with medication, although it's a temporary bandaid. I am devastated and will need additional doctor appointments, a minor(ish) one-day surgery fairly soon, and to top it all off- will need to seriously start thinking about becoming pregnant sooner rather than later. Endometriosis will cause more and more fertility issues for me the longer I wait.

My question is- what or how much do I tell my employers about my condition? I am terrified of being let go because they can no longer accommodate extra days off once I use up what I have. I have a good relationship with them but we aren't necessarily close since I only recently starting working for them. Is it reasonable for me to offer to take additional days or even half days off without pay so that I can start getting the disease under control? In the long run, days off for treatment now would likely mean fewer sick days in the future. Would it be horribly inappropriate for me to open up to them that I may ttc within the next year? I feel like they deserve to know what I have going on, but also don't want to overwhelm them or cause them stress over my situation. I am young (22) so I know they probably liked the idea that I wouldn't be leaving them for marriage or babies any time soon. I liked that idea, too. And, I would not want to lose my job if I become pregnant. I know that is a heavily debated subject on this forum. I really have no idea how to approach this. I feel like it's just been one thing after another in the short 4.5 months that I've been with them and they have been so great. I know they really like me but I don't know when that just isn't worth it anymore. Any advice?[/quote]

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