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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree w/ the other posters that this is worrisome, and you don't want to set a precedent of advancing monies - it's a slippery slope and if it becomes a habit you'll regret ever allowing it (and almost certainly end up losing some amount of money).

That being said, people can get in tough spots between jobs.  So, if you want to do it definitely put it in writing and specify which pay periods the money will be recovered from.  Also be sure to be considering taxes when lending/repaying the money.  And I totally agree w/ 13:41 - put in writing that this is a one time only event.

But I also think that you could simply say that you're very sorry but you can't advance salary for someone who hasn't even begun employment.  If she said she'd try to work something else out then she gave you an "out".  Presumably you don't want to go into the relationship with a baseline of the nanny's personal life becoming something you bear any responsibility for.  The nanny/boss relationship is already fraught w/ the personal nature of the job, it's very very easy to have that slip into other personal areas (I'm guilty of this) and that will put you in a tough spot at some point.  You can always soften your position on things once you have an established relationship and foundation of trust.  It is much much harder to tighten the reins later if you find yourself regretting any blurring of the employer/employee boundaries.

Think about what you would do in a formal workplace - would you advance salary to an employee who hasn't started?  What if they don't show up on day 1?

Admittedly you're not dealing with thousands of dollars, so perhaps this amount is a small enough amount to be worth losing if she flakes out on you.  But if you do it you should be prepared to lose the money (worst case scenario).[/quote]

Excellent points, PP.  Agree that OP should be prepared to lose the $400.  [/quote]

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