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[quote=Anonymous]You hired an 18 year old. A child. What did you expect? Honestly?! Is she young enough to be your own daughter? I have a feeling yes. Every 18 yr old I know lays on the couch with a computer on their belly, and talks to friends (facebook, skype, whatever). Even 19 year olds. 20 year olds.

She's an employee, but she's also supposed to be an extended part of your family. Therefore you are allowed to "have discussions", not "put her in her place". Reminder: you don't own her.

How are her living quarters? No one wants to be locked up in their room 24/7 because she's off duty. Reminder: you invited her to live with you. Just because she's "no longer needed" for the day, doesn't mean you can shoo her to her room that second.

Also, it seems like your husband needs to change his behaviors. Not your AP. By seeing him do it, she thinks she can do it, too.  She sees herself as the adult figure in the house since she's in charge of the kids. Therefore, she is not going to assume "no kids eating anywhere other than the kitchen" applies to her.

Honestly, you did not know what you were getting into when you got an AP. You also hired a young girl from another country. You need to think this through clearly before talking to her. [/quote]

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