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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with encouraging one-on-one time with grandma.

The other thing to keep in mind is that the kids are going through a major change in their life. Not only will they be getting a new sibling their mom is now in the hospital for the foreseeable future. Right now they are trying to cling to everything familiar because of the disruptions to their normal routine. You are familiar with regards to the daily routine. Grandma, while familiar, is not a normal part of their routine. Right now the kids need to maintain a sense of stability to help them deal with the changes.

I don't know what you've been doing so far with involving grandma in the daily routine but here are some things that you could do if you aren't already...

1. If the kids want you to tuck them in perhaps grandma can read bedtime stories beforehand.

2. If grandma is helping prepare meals use this as one-on-one time. One of the kids gets to be "Grandma's special kitchen helper" while you spend some time with the other one.

3. If you need to run any errands ask grandma if she's willing to stay with the kids while you go. She'll obviously say yes, but this way makes it seem like she is helping you out and gives her a purpose for that period of time.

4. Do grandma and the kids enjoy crafts? If so pick up a few special crafts that are special grandma crafts that the kids do with her.

If you find little ways to involve her each day and make her feel like she gets to do special things with the kids it might make things easier. If nothing else just keep telling yourself that this is only temporary and shortly after the baby is born things will return to normal...or at least grandma will fly back home and the rest of you will be finding a new normal. [/quote]

Yes I agree with all of these! Just try to involve the grandma more in things, and encourage one on one time with each child. It won't happen overnight, but if you slowly start incorporating things like the above mentioned, they will start to warm up to her. Also, if you feel comfortable talking with the grandma about all this, I would. Just explain to her that they are young, and since you have been with them full time, naturally they have bonded with you. But also mention that you will do anything you can to help them start bonding with grandma, because you know how important family bonding is for young children. [/quote]

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