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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You shouldn't take a job where you are so scornful of the parents.  As a PP said, it isn't appropriate for you to judge the parents the way you are.  If it isn't the right fit for then find another family with whom you feel more in sync.   If you want a position like this because of the money then you need to make peace with that choice and not hold it against your employers.

If they aren't harming their children it's not your business, period.  And I don't want someone with whom my children are spending all their time expressing scorn and judgment about me.  I want a nanny who reinforces that mommy/daddy love them and are always thinking about them, etc....  A nanny who helps me figure out what my kids need and how I can give it to them.  A nanny who is my ally - not my judge.

Find another job or change your attitude.  You're not doing the kids any favors either by feeling this way about their parents.[/quote]

I have a right to be concerned about the emotional well being of their children. I kinda have to. I am there all the time. I actually don't make that awesome of a salary, but it's all right. It pays the bills. I just find this to be a pattern in the jobs I've had and trust me, they are not super high paying. I love the children and that is why I do it. However, I may have reached burn out or like others have suggested, perhaps I need to find employers who are more involved in their children's lives where I feel more like a compliment to them, not a substitute. And yes, they are harming their children...emotionally. That is just as important of an aspect of their development as any other. Don't tell me to change how I feel. If you have absent mom guilt, then that is your issue, so don't tell me how to feel about. [/quote]

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