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[quote=Anonymous]Oh girl, you should have put up emotion boundaries the DAY you started at that job. But to put it bluntly: you've let shit slide.

In most health nanny/employer relationships, the nanny is not more of a parent to the children.

It sounds like you're sharing in the responsibilities that a mother/wife would without the benefit. He is not your husband, they are not your children. He is a grown man and should be packing his own lunch and doing his own laundry.

That being said - being a single Dad is hard. Especially if he has a demanding job. However, that grunt of care shouldn't have to constantly fall on you. I feel like you are seriously overstepping your boundaries by having dinner with him, having drinks, meeting his family. Do you have romantic feelings for him?

This is largely due to a lot of your decisions. Despite that you have an amicable relationship, you agreed to have dinner with him, have drinks, etc. If you didn't want to overstep your boundaries or keep a distant emotional relationship, why agree to these things? His loneliness and lack of social connection is probably projected onto you.

Unless you want this relationship to continue I really think you need to set some boundaries for yourself. It can be subtle: "sorry, I can't have dinner with you tonight because I have plans", then next week "sorry I can't have dinner because I have a date" ... He will eventually get the hint and hopefully your actions will help it dissolve into something more appropriate. 
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