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[quote=Anonymous]Hi all! I nanny a 2 year old. She is the sweetest, most loving girl- she runs at me EVERY morning so excited to see me and hugs me goodbye every afternoon. Like most almost three year olds, she throws normal tantrums.

Here is what happens:
She does the "no" thing. I can tell when it's about to happen because she gets very stressed and irritable, then I KNOW what is coming next. Here is how it goes:

Me: "Okay let's get you dressed so we can go outside and play!"
B: "No"
Me: "Well, that's fine. We can wait for just a bit on getting dressed and do something else first."
B: "No"
Me: "So would you like to get dressed now or later?"
B: "No"
Me: "That isn't an answer- now or later?"
B: "No"

So then I warn her (she's very used to my system and method by now) that she knows what will happen next. I tell her she has the choice of coming with me back to the playroom, or she can stay here. I give her another reminder that if she throws a fit, I will not console her until she's done. She replies with "no" so I say, "okay sweet girl, you let me know when you're ready. I will get you when you're done crying."

She then screams/cries/yells no repeatedly. I leave the room- far enough to where she can't see me, but where I can still monitor her. When she throws a tantrum, she never does anything that could be dangerous- she doesn't throw things or try to bang her head, etc. She just sits down all pitifully and screams. Sometimes this lasts for only 30 seconds, and she gives up, stops crying, and then comes to me. Sometimes it is more like 10 minutes. Either way, when she comes to me, I hug her and rock her a bit and tell her things like "I am so happy you are done screaming. When you throw a fit, I can't snuggle you. I love hugging my sweet girl. Now we can play!" She whimpers a bit, and then we move on.

The reason I am asking is because when MB is here...which is typically 20 minutes in the morning...if B throws a fit, she CATERS to it. I mean, when the "no" thing is going on, she will literally stand there for 10 minutes with her saying "I don't know what you want me to do" and etc. I know that I am not a mother, but I think it makes it worse.

Am I doing it right? I have told MB that this is how I handle it. She kind of joked about how she wishes she could, but it's her baby, so she can't. I know that B still adores me- but sometimes I worry that she's going to stop liking me because of it. Thoughts?[/quote]

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