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[quote=Anonymous][quote]This post has nothing to do with OP fulfilling their needs. Obviously she was, that why they kept her for so long. [/quote]

Actually it does. Most families would do something like a card, a cake or some sort of goodbye even if they were relieved not to employ the nanny anymore but had originally liked her. For a family to not do anything is a very strong indicator that they had employed her way past her being a good fit for the job they needed done or there were other issues with her performance. The OP herself said that in addition to the mom working from home that they were letting her go because they needed someone to do more housekeeping.

I don't think nannies realize how resentful employers grow paying for a nanny who isn't valuable to them anymore because the kid's schedule has changed but she is inflexible in what tasks she will do. I can't tell you how many people say that they were relieved to be done with the nanny and at the end how they didn't find her to be very valuable because she wasn't doing much. Its almost as if nannies view the kids getting into longer naps or preschool and having no new tasks to fill the time as hitting the jackpot. What happens more often is that the family continues to employ her because they like her and don't want to deal with change. The family ends up resenting her, letting go beyond when they should and it affects her references which would have been glowing had she left when the job needs changed rather than sitting around.

Its a really unrealistic expectation to have a big party, severance, gifts in this situation even though most parents who do at least a card and put on one last fake smile for the nanny.

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