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[quote=Anonymous]Hi, I am currently working full-time (40+) for a family of five. I've been with the family for almost a year and Im very happy, this is definitely the best nanny job I've ever had. I watch three children at least 5 days a week, ages 4-months, 19-months, and almost 3 (MB had them *boom* *boom* *boom* right after the other). Both parents are older, MB is in her late 30s and is an NICU nurse, and DB is in his mid 40s and is an anesthesiologist. The family is wonderful, I love the children to bits and the pay is amazing for my area (Austin, Texas). I rarely have any issues, and over all I feel like we are a perfect fit.

However, I am concerned about "coming out" to my employers. I've been in the painfully slow process of coming out for what seems like forever (I'm 22 btw, gay since birth   ). All my friends know, selected family members, ect... I'm really a VERY private person, I'm not the "Shout from the rooftop" type of gal. Part of me even questions whether I should? I have never felt the need for an employer to know my sexual orientation, it's personal (not shameful) and not important on a professional level. I also realize that as someone who spends a large quantity of time within their home and caring for their children that they may have a right to know this? Maybe? Honestly, I'm tired of dodging the "Do you have a boyfriend" "Going on a date? Lucky guy" questions. I do worry about how they may react to my sexuality, they seem like pretty chill people, I've never heard a homophobic remark from either, but than again politics and social issues have never come up in my conversation with the two. I am hesitant to do anything, but my heart tells me I should let them know, maybe nonchalantly? I doubt they would outright fire me, but I do live in Texas (not known for being gay-friendly) and they are Catholic, and have mentioned their Faith at times, although they don't seem to openly practice. (I was raised Baptist ya'll, I have nothing against Christians or any non-violent religion, I'm just aware that many religious people have issues with accepting gay people.). I want them to know that I'm not going to like give their kids buzz cuts and force them to listen to the Indigo Girls or anything, I will continue to nurture and care for the children as they do, with love and kindness. I'm just scared, I guess I'm worried they wont't feel comfortable with a "homosexual" watching their little bundles of joy. It's hard for me to gage people's acceptance, and at time that can be terrifying.

I apologize for the novel, any other nannies have a similar experience? Parents: How would you react if your nanny Wanda lesbian?

Thanks, Gemma
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