Inconsiderate family
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Anonymous
| Anyone else family had them come to work today claiming they had to work? Parents aren’t even working but had me come and will make sure I don’t leave early. Very inconsiderate I do t think I’ll be working here too much longer |
Anonymous
| I am off but usually work Wednesday before thanksgiving but always off the day after. |
Anonymous
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As a former nanny I get where youre coming from. As a parent now though who has my kids every minute of every day I’m not working I understand wanting to have a few non working non parenting hours to myself when I’ve already paid the childcare. Let them enjoy the day to themselves.
Are u off tomorrow and Friday? |
Anonymous
| It's not inconsiderate. It's your job. If you want a day off take it. |
Anonymous
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Nanny here. If you want a day off, just request it. Don't expect the families to give it to you as a "gift" or whatever.
We're just the help ... |
Anonymous
| I always worked Wed before Thanksgiving, off Thursday and Friday. What is your problem, lady? Once I remember asking to get off 2 hrs early Wed before Thanksgiving and take 2 hrs off my paycheck. That was my preference, I do not want to owe anything to anyone and parents do not owe me more than the rate agreed upon. Which is already a lot. I was paid $35 per hr at my last job. |
Anonymous
No we are not just “the help.” You must not be a Nanny or if you are you likely have very low job morale which would be a very sad thing…… |
Anonymous
Nope, we are childcare. It has value and worth, but it is just a job. You are not 'part of the family' or anything like that. At all jobs, including a nanny job, we are all replaceable. If you think you are not, you have weak boundaries with your nanny family. |
Anonymous
+1 I'm a parent and we have a nanny, and we give lots of paid time off (including this year two weeks at Christmas/New Years as we'll be traveling or off work ourselves). But if I randomly have an extra day off that isn't in my nanny's contract as a day off, you bet your *ss I'm going to enjoy my day off while the nanny works. Especially since often, at my job, those days off are announced at the very last minute (that week or the week before). I have no ethical responsibility to turn around and grant the same to the nanny whom I pay when I'm behind on everything and could really use a nap. You want the day off, take the day off. We also give our nanny a bunch of vacation days of her choice. |
Anonymous
I am a Nanny. And have been for over twenty years. As a pp said, we are doing a job and are not part of the family (hence "the help" expression). Once you get that, you learn to ask for a specific day off if you really want it and that it's not agreed upon (like Thanksgiving). I used to think "they're off, they'll let me leave earlier or don't ask me to work ...", it doesn't work that way. Most families will want to use the hours they paid for (and I understand they need time to themselves of course). So, yes there are very nice families out there that will treat you very well but honestly it's not that common. |
Anonymous
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My main problem w/this scenario would be that the parents LIED to me (by saying that they had to work.)
Integrity is vital in this profession & I would leave if I ever felt like my employers were being dishonest. |
Anonymous
| How do you know they aren't working? Maybe they're doing work on their phone, or on call. Stop being a drama queen. |
Anonymous
If you had integretiy you would have taken PTO if you wanted off or leave without pay. Its not reasonable to expect a paid day off just because. |
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| nice . cool! |