Why is my employer nice to other nannies but not me.
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| I’ve been with my nf for 6 yrs. So it’s a long term thing but the mom is so stand-off to me always has been. Not an overly love hug hey besties cause we are employee/employer. But my mom boss constantly talks with friends nannies , laughs with them hugs them hi and bye. The whole 9 yards. Today I saw her with a friends nanny and they were having a huge convo and hugged bye at the end. Me nothing. I try to bring up something and it’s oh I can’t talk about this or she gets on her phone. It’s to the point I just don’t talk around her anymore. Why bother. But it’s so hurtful. Like what is wrong with me. |
Anonymous
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It has nothing to do with you, she wants to set boundaries. Honestly it's better this way for you, if she were overly nice you wouldnt be able to say no when something bothers you.
- Nanny. |
Anonymous
| Why is this bothering you now after six years? |
Anonymous
| I maintain a professional relationship with my employees. I don't hug them or treat them as peers. I am respectful and cordial but we are not friends. |
Anonymous
| This is a business; you provide services and get paid ; no emotions attached. As long as there’s mutual respect and you don’t miss payments thats all it matters. |
Anonymous
-1 I disagree that there are “no emotions attached” to working as a Nanny. There is rarely any other profession in the universe where emotions take center stage. 
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Anonymous
Bull. OP maybe it's time to move on. |
nolle988
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| It sounds like she’s just more comfortable chatting with her friends’ nannies, but that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Maybe she’s shy or keeps work and friendship separate. |
millie999
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| It really hurts when you feel left out while others get all that warmth and attention. Maybe try sharing your feelings with your boss when things are calm-it might clear the air a bit. |