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[Post New]05/30/2018 20:50
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kburghar

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I've looked through old posts and I still can't decide what to do. In January, we gave our nanny (since 2008) 6 months notice that we would be ending at the end of next month. Needless to say she has become part of the family. My children are in high school and middle school so it's time to end. She has always worked two days a week. For three years it was 9am-7pm, and then for the past 5 it's been 4 hours twice a week. Five years ago, we put her on salary to keep her which put her hourly rate at far above the usual rate. As a result, she has had a regular salary that was guaranteed with paid sick and vacation days. We have always done a 2 week (salary) bonus at the end of the year. I am wonder other than cards from us, a photo book of the kids and a little party, what monetary gift would be appropriate? If we did a week of salary for 9-10 years it would be over $3000. That seems really high. Thoughts?
[Post New]05/30/2018 21:58
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Anonymous
What can you afford, OP? A $3000 gift would be amazing and I am sure deeply appreciated. But $2000, in cash, would be sufficient and I am sure appreciated.

My brother has had the same full time nanny for 13 years. In a few years, she will also retire. He is quite wealthy and has talked about $5000.
[Post New]05/30/2018 22:03
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Anonymous
Give her whatever you can afford.

I would likely set the minimum at $1,000 if that is feasible.

While she sounds like a fabulous Nanny, give yourself some credit as well for being awesome employers.

She likely wouldn’t have stayed on so long otherwise.
[Post New]05/30/2018 22:27
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Give her whatever you can afford.

I would likely set the minimum at $1,000 if that is feasible.

While she sounds like a fabulous Nanny, give yourself some credit as well for being awesome employers.

She likely wouldn’t have stayed on so long otherwise.


+1. My mom once received a $5000 goodbye gift. The family was extremely wealthy and my mom was very happy with the gift. Do what you can afford either way if I was your nanny I would be grateful for the gift.
[Post New]05/31/2018 07:14
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Anonymous
Ya $3000 sounds good. You are a very nice person OP. We need more good people like your nanny and you
[Post New]05/31/2018 09:18
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Anonymous
FWIW, I’ve never received a week for every year I’ve been with a family.
[Post New]05/31/2018 09:33
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Anonymous
An extremely wealthy family I know bought their longterm nanny a condo when she left them after something like 15 years! I have also known of nannies who have received nothing.

Totally your call, OP.
[Post New]05/31/2018 10:15
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Anonymous
I have never heard of a gift this huge for a Nanny leaving.
I think a nice Thank you card saying how much you appreciate her, with $500 in it would be very much appreciated. You don't need to be giving thousands, thats craziness.
[Post New]05/31/2018 12:38
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of a gift this huge for a Nanny leaving.
I think a nice Thank you card saying how much you appreciate her, with $500 in it would be very much appreciated. You don't need to be giving thousands, thats craziness.


? Oh my, don’t listen to this poster! Minimum should be $1000. What is her weekly salary?
[Post New]05/31/2018 12:45
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Anonymous
If you can't swing the 3K then don't. However, it's the right thing to do. She's losing her long term job as well.

Think of it as one last nanny expense.

-- MB about to give a 4-week parting bonus to our ft nanny, and a 3-week parting bonus to our PT housekeeper
[Post New]05/31/2018 12:53
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Anonymous
MB here. I think $1000 is truly lovely. If you give more than that it's amazingly generous. Sounds like you can't really go wrong OP.
[Post New]05/31/2018 20:17
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:What can you afford, OP? A $3000 gift would be amazing and I am sure deeply appreciated. But $2000, in cash, would be sufficient and I am sure appreciated.

My brother has had the same full time nanny for 13 years. In a few years, she will also retire. He is quite wealthy and has talked about $5000.


Shevhas been there 13 years and he's wealtjy. He should give her a year's pay.
[Post New]06/01/2018 00:24
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of a gift this huge for a Nanny leaving.
I think a nice Thank you card saying how much you appreciate her, with $500 in it would be very much appreciated. You don't need to be giving thousands, thats craziness.


+1 Assuming the nanny was paid a fair wage (she must have been to stay so long) and probably got annual bonuses, the parting gift needn't be a ridiculous amount of $$$. Better to demonstrate the "part of the family" bit in a more personal way and to keep in touch so she continues to know your children as adults, invite her to graduations, weddings, etc. The best thing they did was give her so much notice so she could plan.

[Post New]06/01/2018 01:07
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What can you afford, OP? A $3000 gift would be amazing and I am sure deeply appreciated. But $2000, in cash, would be sufficient and I am sure appreciated.

My brother has had the same full time nanny for 13 years. In a few years, she will also retire. He is quite wealthy and has talked about $5000.


Shevhas been there 13 years and he's wealtjy. He should give her a year's pay.


[Post New]06/01/2018 07:54
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Anonymous
You should consider what you expect from your own job when you leave, for one thing. Did you get a 401K or other retirement plan? Did you provide one for your nanny?

If the job is ending b/c you no longer need a nanny, you are laying her off. Wouldn't you expect some kind of severance if you had been at your job for a long time?

You should also remind her that she's eligible for unemployment.
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