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Anonymous wrote:I really just can't believe the attitudes of some of the nannies on here.... I honestly don't understand why you are in this profession.

And we don't understand why you bothered to have children.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB and I think your employers are being obnoxious and overstepping. You are not on duty when you're not at work and you shouldn't have to be responding to texts all the time.

I've contacted our nanny on occasion when I can't find the lovey and we're having a meltdown at bedtime, or if the kids are really sick and we're not sure she should come to work tomorrow. Or if she left her phone at the house and might need it.

I think something like that happens perhaps once every other month. Daily texts after hours are just obnoxious and uncalled for.

I'd try to train them out of expecting a response from you. Things like "Good morning- I just saw your text from last night, I usually turn my phone off when I'm home w/ my family." or "I tend to have pretty busy evenings and have the ringer off when I'm with friends, at class, out to dinner, reading, watching a show, going to bed early, etc...

Do that enough times and maybe they'll stop.

I'm sorry. It's obnoxious.

Train them? Her employers are not nice but they aren't dogs to be trained. All she needs to do is tell them she isn't available to them when she is not on duty, no exceptions. Tough if you can't find "lovey". The ONLY allowable reason to contact her is a true emergency and you not being able to find a toy is not an eergency. If she left her phone at your house, how is she going to read your text.

Clearly we are VERY different kinds of bosses.

Well I respect my employees, just as my employer respects me and this means that their time off is sacrosanct. Unless it is a fire emergency, I would never contact them when off duty. Your children are not the responsibility of your nanny when she is off duty. They, and their problems, petty or real, are your comcern.

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Anonymous wrote:My NF got lucky with me because they can reach me anytime. We often communicate after hours. I don't mind it at all. Luckily I don't hate my NF like the rest of you do, I appreciate the communication and planning we do.

I guess the best thing for everyone would just be finding the right type of family for you. If you are an older nanny why isn't very good with handling a cell phone then you might be better with an old fashioned family. But then if you are a younger more current nanny you could work with a younger family that does things differently.

Probably true. We have an older nanny who never uses her cell phone when she is caring for my child. For us, that alone is worth the very, very few times we have needed to call her on her off hours to ask a question. We are also (we being nanny, DH and I) very organized and keep a log of DS's activities, meals, diaper changes, etc and always have ten minutes to go over his day at the end of Nanny's day.

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nannydebsays wrote:I know nannies who charge a fee for texts and a higher fee for calls that happen when the nanny is off work. Seems to help parents stop the habit and act independently.

Of course, you have to charge enough to make your employers unhappy to spend that amount of money...

HAHA you are hilarious nanny deb. You get more and more out there every day.

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Anonymous wrote:I really just can't believe the attitudes of some of the nannies on here.... I honestly don't understand why you are in this profession.

And we don't understand why you bothered to have children.

My children are well behaved and brilliant, and my nanny is amazing and respected and happy, unlike all the bitter nannies on here.

Anonymous wrote:My nanny family always seems to find a reason to text me about something after I leave in the evening or before I arrive in the afternoon. I don't always have my phone on me and am busy doing other things during these times so sometimes I won't see a message until hours later or when is too late at night to reply. Should I feel badly about this? I don't think its my responsibility to be available every time they text, but I don't want to come across as rude or that I'm ignoring them. What do you think?