Fired Nanny Harassing Family
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Okie
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Hello all- We posted an ad for a live-out nanny and we had someone apply. I will call her 'Nanny T'.
Nanny T, during the interview, informed us that the commute was suitable and she would be able to make it on time. The first week, she commuted from MD to VA, there were no issues. We paid her enough and even considered the metro charges. There were no issues. The following week, while my husband was out of the country, Nanny T informed me that she had living arrangement issues. Could she crash with us for only 2 weeks - she had already discussed with my husband? I cautioned her that we are not looking for such an arrangement, but gave in because I was stranded. She lived in our basement for two weeks and we continued paying her full weekly wage. We both understood that it was only a 2 week temporary accomodation. At the end of the Second week, Nanny T changed her story. She needed to live with us for another week. My husband was back home and we told her a blatant NO. If she couldn't be a live-out nanny, she had to go. She protested demanded to stay with us for another week. We stood our ground and said no. She left on a Saturday morning, after arguing with us back and forth refusing to go. The texts started arriving. First, saying our children had behavioral issues and she was reporting them to the authorities. Then asking for a severance pay. Then saying she was concerned about us, do we need help? We did not respond to any of her messages and asked her not to contact us again. The texts are still coming, threatening us. And so on. I am frightened. How should we handle this? |
nannydebsays
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So, what sort of background check did you do on "Nanny T"? How many of her references did you call? Did you check (aka google) the names of her references to see if they aligned with where she claimed they lived?
If you are not making up a story to create drama, I am sorry you are going through this. Save all her texts and communications and contact the police to get a restraining order. |
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| Do not respond and block her number from your phone. She'll go away eventually. |
Okie
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Thanks for responding. She provided us with a written recommendation. We called the number provided and it went unanswered. We asked Nanny T about it and she said the family must be in Europe for their summer vacation. I paid for a background check online and found no criminal records.
And I am not making up this story, I wish I was. We just moved to a new city and this situation is getting scary. |
Anonymous
| Does she have a key? If so change the locks. She sounds crazy. Do not answer calls or texts . Just ignore her. If she shows up call the police. Unfortunately she will probably do this again to another family. |
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Sounds like you're learning a really painful lesson about due diligence OP. I'm sorry.
I would change your locks, if you haven't already. Send her a text informing her that she is to stop contacting you immediately and that if she does contact you again you will go directly to the police. Do you have an attorney? If so, have the attorney make the contact for you. If she shows up at your house call the police. When hiring your next nanny (don't let this scare you away from all of them - just hire more safely next time) make sure you get and speak with multiple references. Set up an initial trial period. Trust your instincts. Good luck! - MB |
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Change the locks. Go to the police station with your husband and tell them you'd like to have a report on file. Show them the texts. Make sure they include them in the report. Get a copy of the report. If there's a case number, get that. The police should talk to you about a restraining order.
In the future always verify written references. Europe has email. |
Anonymous
| Why are you posting here instead of calling the police? I do not believe you for this very reason. |
Anonymous
| Why are you posting here instead of calling the police? I do not believe you for this very reason. |
Anonymous
| None of her texts are threats. She's going to report your children? That one is kind of a threat, but a bogus one that won't do anything. |
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Yikes...She sounds a little uh..."unstable."
I am not sure of the laws in your state but this is harassment in my opinion. Does she still or did she ever have the keys to your residence? If so, change your locks ASAP. If this behavior continues, I would file a protective order. Or at the very least, consider calling the police and letting them know so it is documented somewhere just in case. |
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I wish this was a joke, but it is true. We just filed a protective order this morning. The messages are still coming even after we sent a legal warning asking her to stop.
Nanny T had provided a reference letter, the family that was supposedly in Europe. I just called that mother and left a VM saying this is about Nanny T and the police is now involved. The mother called back and said Nanny T did the same thing to her. She said she never wrote a reference letter for Nanny T. The letter is forged. Nanny T gave the same sob story and this mother and her family took her in for a limited time – a month in this case. When it was time to go, Nanny T refused to leave and called this family racist and plantation owners and continued sending harassing emails and text messages after she left. This mother told me she has been ignoring a lot of reference calls about Nanny T because she just wanted this issue to go away. I asked her to please, please warn any family out there that calls her about Nanny T and Nanny T’s performance, because this is a disaster waiting to happen. Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/ex-nanny-harrassing-our-family-please-read/#ixzz3BhR3Uvek |
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| If anyone works for you with in two weeks and you dont know much about them from conversation to know when some one is telling the truth or not , never let them stay with you. Go get a police complaint on her. File stocking and do a stay away order, so if she comes around when you call the police you ave this on file and they can arrest her. She can be a thret to you and your families safety. You should have enough info on her to give to the police. If she has keys change the locks, tell your children to go know where near her and if they see her call you at work so you can call the police immedietely. And when you call the police if she leave and and you set up a court date she dont show she will make things bad fro herself. They can send a warrent to her to be delivered and put in her hand if you have her address, keep pepper spray in the house, a bat at the front and back door. If she come to your house you ask her to leave, if she put her hands on you protect yourself and call the police before you have to do anything to her. Now on the horrassment text change your number, but see if you can print the messages to keep for your records incase you go to court you need proof that its her. And if anything gets dammaged windows , car,take pictures and print them and cali the police to make a report and explain who you think may have didi it and show them your warent against this person. Get the name and the report of the policeman that come to your house every time, keep all this , that will build a case against her so if they do catch her she will need to pay for the damage, if she call your job expain to your supervisor whats going on and report it to police keep report, and the witness from the job a statement. But if you let her know you are going to reprot her ,she may leave you along , try that first make sure you record the conversation. Be safe |