nannydebsays wrote:OP, has your nanny gotten yearly raises and anniversary bonuses? If so, then I think you have compensated her for the job she has done, and a bonus would be unneeded yet very generous, since she is making the decision to leave.

OTOH, if you have not given raises or bonuses over the past 3 years, and her performance was excellent until the last few months, I think a bonus of 2 weeks pay would be a good idea to acknowledge the good work she did for you during her tenure.

Of course, if you didn't give raises/bonuses over the last 3 years, it's pretty clear why she's leaving, frankly.

Anonymous wrote:I'd give one week and a nice gift from the kids.

Anonymous wrote:Op again - she is leaving due to some life circumstances. I think the stress of those circumstances has negatively affected her job performance.

Anonymous wrote:Any nanny that stay with a family for three years, should get 2 weeks pay.

Anonymous wrote:My first reaction was perhaps OP's nanny quit because of job creep. OP says that the nanny stopped doing chores she used to do. Were these chores in her original job description or were they chores she took it upon herself to do?
The only reason a nanny does extra work (work not included in her contract) is to secure a raise or bonus when the time comes. This is called "going above and beyond."
My guess is that nanny's efforts became expected, unappreciated and unrewarded. She got sick of it and stopped completely while she job hunted. She knew she wasn't going to stay. She shouldn't have been late, but I get it. To put it blunty, you didn't give s**t, so she stopped giving a s**t. I'd bet a million dollars that this is what happened.