Organization vent
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Here is the situation: I do all of the kids laundry, I organized their drawers and closets, I put all of their clothes away, and I get them dressed most days. How is it possible, then, that when I leave at night all of the drawers/closets/other clothing storage is neat and organized, and by the morning it looks like a tornado blew through. HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN? And would it be too much trouble to respect the work that I put into keeping things tidy for you by attempting to keep it in this state?
It would be negligible if this only happened with the clothes or the toys, but it is literally every part of the house (tuperware drawers, bottle shelves, etc.). I know there is nothing to be done, and it would be pretty petty and rude of me to bring this up to my employers, it is just seriously irksome. |
Anonymous
| Stop doing it. They think you're stupid. |
Anonymous
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MB here. I don't think it would be rude for you to discuss this w/ your employers. Do you have a time when you regularly touch base with them about how things are going, updates on the kids, upcoming household or vacation plans, etc...? Bring it up then.
Or, say "I notice that I come in most mornings to things being rearranged or torn through. Is there a way you would prefer me to organize things or puts things away? I'm guessing you must be having a hard time finding things and I'd rather do it a way you like the first time, than have to keep redoing it." |
Anonymous
| Mine do the same thing. I leave their house effing spotless as every.single.morning it looks like a war zone. I am way over paid for this area, and know it, so I just seethe inside and go about picking up their messes |
Anonymous
| Good luck with that one, OP. This is one of the biggest complaints of nannies that parents do not clean up after their kids after the nanny leaves. They figure that since they are paying you, you should do it. |
Anonymous
I have no problem doing the cleaning, and I actually really enjoy organizing. I just really don't understand how in the span of maybe 4-5 (and 1-2 for the kids) waking hours, everything can be undone... |
Anonymous
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Btdt. I would do the children's laundry and organize their wardrobe and the very next day it looked like a tornado hit. Sad thing is- their mother was a SAHM who basically spent her day going to Starbucks, playing tennis and out to lunch with friends.
I would even organize their kitchen pantry- without being asked and the next day I would get up work and everything was messed up. I only lasted at the position for 4 months before having enough. I think the MB felt threatened that her children listened to me and then the moment she got home they would have meltdowns and act out. Really sad situation. Some people just shouldn't have kids and that woman was one of them. |
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Is the organizing and tidying you are doing part of your contracted responsibilities? If so, perhaps something along the lines if, "MB, I have been doing my best to keep XYZ tidy. Is that something you want me to continue to do, even when it takes time away from the kids playing and learning times with me?"
If it's not your responsibility, don't do it any more. Or, if the kids are old enough to help, have them assist you in redoing their areas after the tornado goes through. |
Anonymous
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Can you ask MB how important it is to keep the drawers organized?
My girls regularly take their dresses / shirts / whatever out the drawers and play with them / look at them. We have discussed the differences between dress up clothes which are a type of toy, and regular clothes, which are not. Ultimately though, I decided to focus on other battles. I ask them to stop if I see them doing it, but I also don't fold / organize. I would feel really bad though if my nanny thought she had to keep the clothes organized and was getting frustrated while I had given up long ago. Check and see if this might be your situation! |
Anonymous
| if you paid to do it keep doing it, or leave. |
Anonymous
I'm paid to take care of children, not clean up after sloppy adults. I will keep doing the clean up because that is the kind of employee I am, it is just frustrating (that's why it's called a VENT, look it up). I don't expect a magical solution, because, obviously, this is just the kind of people my employers are. And they are great in every other respect. "Just leave" is about the least constructive and poorly thought out response anyone can give on these threads...yet a few posters feel the need to keep on doing it. Maybe you were raised with a poor work ethic, but I was taught to make the best of a situation and not run the minute something isn't perfect, it's gotten me quite a bit farther than the alternative. |
Anonymous
| My nanny does our kid laundry and leaves everything nice and folded. I LOVE it. Sometimes though the kids mess it up and I feel bad, but reorganizing everything is not possible while chasing after kids in the evening hours when they are wound up while trying to cook dinner, go to activities, clean up the house (and this includes things like mopping and sweeping which the nannyt doesn't typically do during the day), get the kids to bed, deal with husband out of town or working late, and just try to survive being super sick pregnant. Organizing drawers sinks down on my priority list. It doesn't mean I'm not graefuil. I do make an effort to keep everything else as clean as I can. i know you probably think you do so much mopre than your MB but she might have other household management responsibilities you are not considering. |
Anonymous
| I am a MB w/ the exact opposite problem. I spend all weekend organizing toys and clothes and by Tuesday everything is chaos again. Sigh... |
Anonymous
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It is painfully obvious to me that the family, esp. the parents do not value nor respect your work.
Screw them. Let them organize their own stuff from now on. |
Anonymous
| Why don't the parents care about their kids? Why are they raising slobs? |