Advice re letting our nanny go
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| The time is quickly approaching where I need to tell our nanny that we will be moving in a different direction for our childcare needs. She is a great nanny, but our girls are getting older and we no longer need full time care. I plan to give her a lot of notice and to help her in any way that I can to find another job. My question is about how to tell her - do I tell her one morning while the girls are at school and then expect her to work the remainder of the day? Or do I try to meet up with her on a weekend to tell her? I am sure she will be disappointed, as anyone is when they find out that their job is changing. And I want to be respectful of that, so I want to give her time to process it after I tell her. My goal is for everyone to be as happy as possible and for the relationship to continue through the summer. Does anyone have experience or suggestions about the logistics of telling her? Thanks! |
Anonymous
| Could you tell her at the end of her workweek so she can have time to process, over the weekend? How long did she help you? |
Anonymous
| One evening, just tell her what you told us. |
Anonymous
| Ask her to set aside 15 minutes at the end of a Friday in May to talk privately with you. Get your girls situated with a short television show or something else that will ensure you're not interrupted, and tell her what you told us - her work has been wonderful, you're sorry to be parting ways but the girls' needs have changed and you won't need a nanny anymore, and assure that you want to do everything you can to help her find a new position. Tell her that you intend to keep her on FT through the summer but you understand if her new position begins a week or two early that you will be flexible with her departure date (and then, be flexible). She'll have the weekend to come to grips with it, and the summer is the perfect time to be job hunting as lots of jobs begin in the fall. |
webbkathy
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OP there are other issues involved here. We publish a free tip sheet on best practices and considerations when letting a nanny go:
http://www.info.4nannytaxes.com/how-to-fire-a-nanny |
Kathy Webb
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HomeWork Solutions Inc.
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Anonymous
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I just went through this with my MB. I had initiated the conversation b/c I was curious what her thoughts were on how long they anticipated needing a f/t nanny. (I've been with them 3 1/2 years...kids are entering 1/2 day K this fall.)
We sat down to talk on Wednesday afternoon last week. I was floored when I discovered what her plans were (staying home for one year). It was not something I saw coming. Best case scenario I will finish out the calendar year with them. If things change sooner they will give me 3-4 months notice. I am free to start looking when I feel the time is right, and can move on if the right opportunity presents itself before they are ready. I won't though b/c I won't put the kids through more transitions than absolutely necessary. Having the conversation mid-day/week was rough. I was in a bit of a fog the rest of the afternoon. I ended up not working the next day due to flooding in the area, so in a way I was fortunate to have a full day to process things before going back to work Friday. I would suggest setting aside time on a Friday afternoon (kids occupied out of the house if possible) so that she can leave and have the weekend to process things. Things are fine between MB and myself. It's bit just over a week since I got the unexpected news. I've settled into it and plan to enjoy the remainder of my time with them. I also know that they will provide an amazing reference when I am ready to begin searching. Good luck! |
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PP, you said you are able to finish out the calendar year- that's like seven more months. And if things change sooner, they'll give you 3-4 months.
I'm confused at your reaction, unless I'm not understanding the timeline correctly. Why were you in a fog and needing to deeply process things? I promise I am not being mean-- I really am just confused, and I haven't been with any family longer than 2 years so maybe you're just very invested in them./ |
Anonymous
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14:05 here. I was blindsided by MB's news that she was planning to leave her job to stay home. My original thought was that I would be with the family through August 2014 when the children enter 1st grade.
I am planning a career change in the future (about 15-18 months from now) and part of that career change will require daytime trainings Jan-May (of 2014) in order to qualify for the credentials. It would be about 3 days/month. My current family offers tremendous flexibility that will be very, very difficult to find in a new job. If my job ends in 3-4 months it will affect the internship I need to complete July-Dec. Again it will be difficult to find a family who would be able to offer the flexibility I need to complete my internship hours. Working p/t would be an option, but not a viable one financially. There is more, but that's the gist of it. |