My sister the job creep...
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Anonymous
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I work as a full time nanny for a family outside of my own, but when my sister had her son recently it was only natural she ask me to do what little child care she needed when returning back to work. Let me also tell you I am only taking care of my nephew for 6 weeks of scheduled time (until my sisters work Scheduale changes). After my 6 weeks of watching him
Is up they are considering trying to find a pt nanny... The hours I am currently working are 3am-7:45am before my job begins at 8:30 am Monday and Tuesday... Since he's a newborn there's usually a good chance I will be awake part of the time I'm there - but if he's asleep, since I also have to work that day I try to sleep. The first week my only duties were with my nephew but every week since (we're At week 4) she has added a new house hold dutie... Which is ridiculous since I'm her sister not her nanny/housekeeper... But whatever I can deal, what I'm curious about is how to let her know this is NOT okay with a nanny and if I were not her sister I would be seeking new employment since my job has went from child care to child car , housekeeping and pet sitting? |
Anonymous
| troll |
Anonymous
| Tell her it is not OK. Do you really not know how to communicate with your own sister? |
Anonymous
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Nannies do provide housekeeping. In fact, most nannies do housekeeping.
If this is the service that she needs then its appropriate for you to tell her that she should be upfront abut the job responsibilities when interviewing candidates. You can let her know that some nannies prefer not to do housekeeping. If you throw a hissy fit that nannies should never do housekeeping, your sister isn't going to believe this for long. You may fool her initially but she'll realize that you are full of it sooner or later. A soon as she gets to know other families or interviews candidates she'll realize that most do. |
Anonymous
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If a nanny was a housekeeper, she'd be called a housekeeper, not a nanny.
Yes, this concept is indeed rocket science. |
Anonymous
| If you were a rocket scientist you wouldn't be so insecure about nannies being housekeepers. Why lie to your sister? She's going to figure this out anyway. |
Anonymous
You're first sentence makes no sense whatsoever. |
Dragonnanny
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| There are some nannies who do not mind doing household work. Most household that comes under the "nanny" heading all has to do with the child only. Not the parents or the rest of the house. I would make a list of what you are willing to do and what you are not. I would then let her know you want to talk with her and go from there. The hours you work for her and then you go to a full time job, should also be taken into consideration. Just remember, when you do something once, thinking you are being helpful, it then can become expected. |
Anonymous
| Is she paying you? |
Anonymous
Learn the meaning of troll you hag... |
Anonymous
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If you're doing this for free because you love your sister, then you need to decide what you want to do. I would tell her I already have a job and I'm just helping out for a few weeks -- I'll watch Jr., but I'm not doing anything else.
And then I would help her draft an ad that outlines everything she'd like a nanny or nanny/housekeeper to do. And if she gets good candidates who do all those things, great. |
Anonymous
| Op here: I think I should have worded this differently, I'm watching my nephew for free... Which is fine. I just want her to be prepared for when she has an permanent nanny who won't be as accommodating when she adds more jobs to their work load... I don't mind doing all the work I'm doing got her but as a nanny myself I wouldn't appreciate being told I'm hired just for child care and then be asked to also take care of the dogs, do vacuuming, put away parent laundry etc... |
Anonymous
| Then she needs to state those things in her ad along with what she plans to pay. I think what you need to explain to her is that while many nannies do some housekeeping, not all do, and if she wants a good fit, she needs to be clear about her needs. Honestly, if those hours will be the same for her actual nanny, I would look for a housekeeping nanny, too, since after the newborn months, baby will likely be sleeping for much of it, but since it's not overnight, the hours aren't really conducive to sleeping. |
Anonymous
Lol, do you sit around all day waiting for someone to post a question so you can call troll? This doesn't even sound like a troll question, you're just paranoid. |
Anonymous
Damn, your watching it for free and she's adding tasks? Omg, haha.. It's your sister, just tell her strait up that you're not going to do it.. This is charity work not a job lol, if you were a real nanny and not a sister you'd be getting paid because noone in their right mind works for free.. Just tell her. C'mon, get a friggin backbone woman! |