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[Post New]03/26/2013 11:53
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loudounnanny

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I am fed up with MB, DB AND their 6 year old (Presumably ADHD son). This is just a Vent/Rant...I know what I'm going to do. QUIT!! I started working for this family in July 2012. They are a extremely nice, laid back couple. First things first my contract is written that I take care of their 2 children the 6 y/o and the 21 month old and provide the basics, breakfast, lunch snack time, reading, activities, laundry for the kids, vacuuming play area. Work time was to be from 8:30a to 5:30p Monday through Friday and my pay was $400 a week when I started. MB (begged me) to accept $400 because they simply couldn't afford to pay more. MB also added Family laundry and vacuuming throughout the house. I had no problem with that. What I do have a problem with is how DISGUSTINGLY FILTHY they are. On Monday when I come to work, the house is a complete PIG STYE. Dishes with food in them from last night's dinner still on the table, the kitchen island filled with everything they used the night before, pots and pans on the stove (some containing food) sink full of dirty dishes. Wine glasses and a half dozen beer bottles all over the kitchen and family room. At first I use to come right in working, putting away, emptying out, throwing out, loading the dishwasher etc. NOW it's time to go upstairs...OMGEE!! What a nightmare. MB & DB's Master bedroom...SMH. Clothes everywhere all over the floor instead of placed in the hamper, bath towels wet & dry all over, bed linen? Let's just say TMI and this happens at least 3 days a week. Bathroom? UNBELIEVABLE!! unmentionables & sanitary thingys , toothpaste, fresh cut hair all over the sink and floor. NO. I'm not suppose to clean any of this but after seeing it like this for 4 straight days? I figured I'd help them out by cleaning it up. The very next day, it's like I never touched it.

The 6 year old is definitely in need of an evaluation for ADHD. He's defiant, RUDE and simply does not listen to anything I say without arguing me down first. He has total meltdowns when things don't go his way, he has thrown things at me and kicked at me AND he is dangerous to and jealous of his little brother. He has injured that poor baby more times than I care to mention. All by being sneaky and waiting for the opportunity once I turn my head for a second. Lets just say, I don't allow him to play with his brother anymore. He has to wait until the parents arrive home at 5:30, 5:45, 6:00,6:15, 6:30, 6:45, 7:00,7:10. Yes, I know. What happened to 8:30 to 5:30?

I know I'm all over the place but I'm pissed. I feel like they EXPECT this of me. So for the last 2 months I have done only whats in my contract and do you think that has made a difference? NOT. I have to clean up their mess everyday, especially in the kitchen and in the family room in order to work. Was told they could only pay me $400 a week until I stopped cleaning up their house like a slave then out of no where it's upped to $450. I like working for them and love the kids but can not take the disrespect of their son any longer as well as the filthiness of this house.
[Post New]03/26/2013 12:05
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Anonymous
Calm down this isn't your diary.
[Post New]03/26/2013 12:18
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loudounnanny

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Anonymous wrote:Calm down this isn't your diary.

No. It's not my diary. It's exactly what I said it was (Anonymous) a Vent/Rant. So, therefore that's just what I did. Thanks for your observation.
[Post New]03/26/2013 12:24
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Anonymous
Sounds like a nightmare and you're not being paid anywhere near enough.

Good luck finding something better.

Sounds rotten for the kids also.
[Post New]03/26/2013 12:30
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loudounnanny

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a nightmare and you're not being paid anywhere near enough.

Good luck finding something better.

Sounds rotten for the kids also.


Thank you
[Post New]03/26/2013 12:51
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Calm down this isn't your diary.


You are on a roll today, huh? Please get a life.

OP, I was in your situation about 3 years ago. One of the 4 kids I cared for had ADHD as well as many other things. She hit, kicked, bit, etc. The house was also EXACTLY as you described. I made the mistake of cleaning everything and then they got used to it. I eventually left the job because I couldn't take it anymore and the family did nothing to stop the on child from being aggressive.
[Post New]03/26/2013 13:03
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Anonymous
Glad you realize that the situation is not going to work and will be quitting. Ugh, If the parents couldn't afford to pay more, they should have put the kids in daycare. They ashould have atleast been paying hourly minimum wage.
[Post New]03/26/2013 13:08
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loudounnanny

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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Calm down this isn't your diary.


You are on a roll today, huh? Please get a life.

OP, I was in your situation about 3 years ago. One of the 4 kids I cared for had ADHD as well as many other things. She hit, kicked, bit, etc. The house was also EXACTLY as you described. I made the mistake of cleaning everything and then they got used to it. I eventually left the job because I couldn't take it anymore and the family did nothing to stop the on child from being aggressive.


I'm on a roll? Get a life? What did I say in my post, that warrants me not having a life? I have a life and a darned good one. All you had to do is say what you said above instead of attacking my post. Seems like you need to get a life and stop trolling.
[Post New]03/26/2013 14:11
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Anonymous
Loudonnanny - I'm pretty sure the PP who said "you're on a roll" etc... was commenting on 12:05 - not you. Wasn't directed at you - you just read too quickly or something.
[Post New]03/26/2013 15:07
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Anonymous
loudounnanny wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Calm down this isn't your diary.


You are on a roll today, huh? Please get a life.

OP, I was in your situation about 3 years ago. One of the 4 kids I cared for had ADHD as well as many other things. She hit, kicked, bit, etc. The house was also EXACTLY as you described. I made the mistake of cleaning everything and then they got used to it. I eventually left the job because I couldn't take it anymore and the family did nothing to stop the on child from being aggressive.


I'm on a roll? Get a life? What did I say in my post, that warrants me not having a life? I have a life and a darned good one. All you had to do is say what you said above instead of attacking my post. Seems like you need to get a life and stop trolling.


I'm the PP. I wasn't telling you to get a life..I was telling the "calm down this isn't your diary" poster to get a life.
[Post New]03/26/2013 17:17
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Anonymous
1. Do not accept ANY job where parent begs you to take position at lower hourly rate because "this is all I can afford." You get the hourly pay you normally receive.

2. NEVER, NEVER, EVER clean up ANYTHING but any mess made by children when you are on duty. Filthy kitchen is NOT your problem.

3. Stop letting people take advantage of you and your good nature.

4. Next job spell out exactly what duties you perform and they are all child-related and the time you are with children.

5. Take a pic and post on underground nanny network so that these pigs will never be able to find another nanny.

Good luck.
[Post New]03/26/2013 17:39
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:5. Take a pic and post on underground nanny network so that these pigs will never be able to find another nanny.


Uh, where could a nanny find this underground network? Is there a secret password or what? I'd love to tap into it.
[Post New]03/26/2013 21:14
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
loudounnanny wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Calm down this isn't your diary.


You are on a roll today, huh? Please get a life.

OP, I was in your situation about 3 years ago. One of the 4 kids I cared for had ADHD as well as many other things. She hit, kicked, bit, etc. The house was also EXACTLY as you described. I made the mistake of cleaning everything and then they got used to it. I eventually left the job because I couldn't take it anymore and the family did nothing to stop the on child from being aggressive.


I'm on a roll? Get a life? What did I say in my post, that warrants me not having a life? I have a life and a darned good one. All you had to do is say what you said above instead of attacking my post. Seems like you need to get a life and stop trolling.


I'm the PP. I wasn't telling you to get a life..I was telling the "calm down this isn't your diary" poster to get a life.


Loudounnanny here: I apologize for assuming that you were being mean. See? I really do need to get outta there! It's not in my nature to act out like that. I sincerely apologize and I appreciate everyone's advice. Thank you.
[Post New]03/26/2013 21:17
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:1. Do not accept ANY job where parent begs you to take position at lower hourly rate because "this is all I can afford." You get the hourly pay you normally receive.

2. NEVER, NEVER, EVER clean up ANYTHING but any mess made by children when you are on duty. Filthy kitchen is NOT your problem.

3. Stop letting people take advantage of you and your good nature.

4. Next job spell out exactly what duties you perform and they are all child-related and the time you are with children.

5. Take a pic and post on underground nanny network so that these pigs will never be able to find another nanny.

Good luck.


Thank you...Thank you! I will definitely heed your advice
[Post New]03/26/2013 21:25
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:5. Take a pic and post on underground nanny network so that these pigs will never be able to find another nanny.


Uh, where could a nanny find this underground network? Is there a secret password or what? I'd love to tap into it.



Word of mouth. You tell other nannies and they pass on the info.
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