Very worried about my new charge
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I have started working with a new family, with an infant sin and four-year-old daughter. I'm a week in and already extremely uncomfortable with the daughters behavior. She is very sexually aware, too much, I've worked with children for 10+ years and this child knows more about sex than I do. She comments on my body, on the body of the girl on tv, on the size of her brothers penis, she's spoken of different sexual acts, and I ask her how she knew, and she just mentions TV. She is also chronically masterbating, I know self exploration at this age is normal, but I'm constantly telling her to remove her hands from her pants, or go to her room, that she needs to do that in private. Literally, she is more obsessed with nudity and sex than a 14-year-old boy. I've talked to her parents and they seemed surprised, and say to put her in time out when she talks like that.
Does this sound like she could be abused, because I'm very close to calling CPS. |
Anonymous
| The frequent touching herself wouldn't concern me, but the knowledge of different sex acts would. |
Anonymous
| is she adopted from an institution by any chance? |
Anonymous
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did they have another nanny before you? is this behavior learned from the previous nanny? i am a MB with a 4 year old girl and the most she knows is that her brother has different private parts than she does (and they bathe together all the time). this is abnormal. SOMEONE needs reported.
but... the parents saying put her in TO when she talks like that? I WOULD FUCKING FLIP MY GD LID IF I KNEW MY 4 YO DAUGHTER WAS TALKING ABOUT SEX ACTS. yes, she does play with herself -- occasionally - and doesn't do it much anymore. |
Anonymous
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I agree that she may be being/or have been abused.
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Anonymous
| or at the very lead have been exposed to VERY inappropriate movies, TV programs. but the fact the the parents just say TO is very strange to me. |
Anonymous
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1. Get out of this job. It puts you in compromising position. 2. Call CPS. It could be nothing, but that's not really your call. Do your due diligence and leave it to a professional.
This is very unusual behavior and you have every right to be concerned. |
thewildbaby
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+100000 And do it right away. |
Anonymous
| troll |
Anonymous
No, she's their bio-child, not named Esthter. |
Anonymous
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"not named Esthter"
?? am I missing something? |
Anonymous
From the movie,Orphan |
Anonymous
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I know you're not really supposed to ask questions that could put ideas in their heads. But have you asked her who shows her these movies/shows?
Yes, you need to call CPS. You also need to look for another job, because you will probably be fired. Since you've brought up the issue, the parents will likely assume it was you who called. Please let us know what happens with this. Good luck. |
Anonymous
| I know this thread is very old but I feel obliged to respond. I was sexually abused as a child and displayed the same exact behavior at 4 years old. I really hope CPS was called and the situations was resolved - I wish someone would have done so for me. |
Anonymous
This. I could have written the exact same thing. |