What have you done to accommodate nanny's 3-week overseas trip?

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Anonymous wrote:I would shorten her vacation to two weeks - then take one week off and have DH take one week off.

This is one of the reasons I hired an American nanny, OP. This always happens with foreign nannies.

But I've heard many times of situations where the nanny asks for a long vacation, the parents say they can only accommodate a shorter one, nanny agrees...then once she is over in the home country, a day or two before she is supposed to return, she contacts the parents and says she is actually going to stay longer....

YUP! Happens a lot!

I don’t get this. Our nanny is taking a long vacation (2.5 weeks) over holidays which we are stretching to accommodate. If she pulled something like that I would absolutely be looking for a new nanny.

No one expects it, and the reason is always something reasonable when weighed against the cost of returning for another trip later (well, I shouldn't say "always"). Then you start talking to other people, and you discover how often this happens.

So the nannies who do this are lying straight to their employers face, and booking later return plane tickets with the intention of making up a last minute excuse? because actually changing plane tickets at the last minute can be really expensive...

I don't know. My guess is that in the overall cost of international travel, the change fee is worth it (and extra 2 weeks for $200 change fee? OK). Or relatives at home take care of it. Who knows. I just know it happened to me twice, and you can see just from the small sample here that it has happened to other people.

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So the nannies who do this are lying straight to their employers face, and booking later return plane tickets with the intention of making up a last minute excuse? because actually changing plane tickets at the last minute can be really expensive...

I don't know. My guess is that in the overall cost of international travel, the change fee is worth it (and extra 2 weeks for $200 change fee? OK). Or relatives at home take care of it. Who knows. I just know it happened to me twice, and you can see just from the small sample here that it has happened to other people.

Or sometimes the nanny just books the later flight right from the beginning. Unless the parents actually SEE the official itinerary from the airline/ticket, they really don't know for sure what the nanny has booked.

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Are there any local in-home day cares in your area? If you need three weeks of coverage and there is room, they may allow you to come in for those weeks for the extra money. We did this a few times with a highly recommended one when we needed coverage and it worked out fine.

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So the nannies who do this are lying straight to their employers face, and booking later return plane tickets with the intention of making up a last minute excuse? because actually changing plane tickets at the last minute can be really expensive...

I don't know. My guess is that in the overall cost of international travel, the change fee is worth it (and extra 2 weeks for $200 change fee? OK). Or relatives at home take care of it. Who knows. I just know it happened to me twice, and you can see just from the small sample here that it has happened to other people.

Or sometimes the nanny just books the later flight right from the beginning. Unless the parents actually SEE the official itinerary from the airline/ticket, they really don't know for sure what the nanny has booked.

Right. I’m shocked this is so prevalent , didn’t know this was something to have on my radar. With my nannies upcoming almost 3 week trip we have a very firm return date an she told me verbally when her return flight is, date and time. And she knows we are stretching to accommodate , including grandparent help.

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Anonymous wrote:America first!! Right, pp? ?

When you employ a foreign nanny and you like her, you make it work with a temp.

Oh, stop the crap. You have a foreign nanny because she is cheaper. End of discussion.

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Actually I am a foreign nanny (with a degree since apparently that's important in this thread) who is now a legal US citizen and I take a month of time off and my nanny family who has employed me for 5 years is perfectly happy to hire a temp.

Why hire a foreign nanny? Well I speak 5 languages. 3 fluent, 2 conversational. We are also more open minded apparently.

I am an American nanny who speaks three languages fluently. I have never taken more than one week off at a time. I fail to see how being inconvenienced makes the employer "open minded". That is all we are talking about, PP - the inconvenience of the month long nanny vacation.

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Let me guess you don't have a passport, pp.

I actually really feel sorry for you. Travel is important and you are missing out.

I am working, Child. I have responsibilities. I am a grown up with a mortgage and husband who also works. We both traveled a great deal in college, doing a year abroad, and when we were with the Peace Corp. Now we have jobs that we honor.

My home is paid off, 'child'. I am also working and have employers that allow me to travel.

DP here. So what is the "travel is important and you are missing out" and "I feel sorry for you" crap? You are being stunningly childish, PP. I laughed when I read how the Peace Corp nanny took you down.

You currently have employers who allow you to take extended time off. Good for you. That is not the norm in this country nor is it what OP is interested in.

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Anonymous wrote:America first!! Right, pp? ?

When you employ a foreign nanny and you like her, you make it work with a temp.

Oh, stop the crap. You have a foreign nanny because she is cheaper. End of discussion.

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Actually I am a foreign nanny (with a degree since apparently that's important in this thread) who is now a legal US citizen and I take a month of time off and my nanny family who has employed me for 5 years is perfectly happy to hire a temp.

Why hire a foreign nanny? Well I speak 5 languages. 3 fluent, 2 conversational. We are also more open minded apparently.

I am an American nanny who speaks three languages fluently. I have never taken more than one week off at a time. I fail to see how being inconvenienced makes the employer "open minded". That is all we are talking about, PP - the inconvenience of the month long nanny vacation.

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Let me guess you don't have a passport, pp.

I actually really feel sorry for you. Travel is important and you are missing out.

I am working, Child. I have responsibilities. I am a grown up with a mortgage and husband who also works. We both traveled a great deal in college, doing a year abroad, and when we were with the Peace Corp. Now we have jobs that we honor.

My home is paid off, 'child'. I am also working and have employers that allow me to travel.

DP here. So what is the "travel is important and you are missing out" and "I feel sorry for you" crap? You are being stunningly childish, PP. I laughed when I read how the Peace Corp nanny took you down.

You currently have employers who allow you to take extended time off. Good for you. That is not the norm in this country nor is it what OP is interested in.

Let me guess, you don't have a passport, pp
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