child injured due to the inattention of a caregiver - what would you do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son broke his leg at a playground.

He was under nanny supervision.

He is only 4 and he won't be able to walk for the next 6-8 weeks.

What would you do if you were me?

MB here. I had a similar situation 5 years ago. I decided to let my nanny go. I didn't trust her anymore.
If you have a witness, you can sue her.
If you don't want to sue her, you can fire her.

Good luck.

If your child/children get hurt with you or your DH, will you shoot him or commit suicide because you let them get hurt? You are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to to sue her. I am just mad.

And I am surprised she didn't offer any help - like coming on weekend and taking care of DS.

100% not her responsibility. That would be like expecting a preschool teacher to come to your house over the weekend and care for your kid if he was stick with a stomach bug he caught while at school.

You sound like a pretty difficult MB. Maybe you should quit work and stay home and care for your child yourself. And I'm not saying that to be mean, I'm saying it honestly.

Your poor Nanny, I hope she finds a new job, because working for OP must be pretty tough. Kids have accidents. Please explain how you are going to prevent all accidents for your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She took her eyes of my son for more than a minute.

I believe she wasn't supervising him properly.

Like someone mentioned before : you have to prevent a kid from getting in dangerous situations.

If he was swinging too high she should have told him not to do it. Simple.

It was easy to forsee he would fell off the swing.

OP, I think you should seriously consider getting a room full of foam, so your child will never get injured. And it is best to stay in all day in that foam room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She took her eyes of my son for more than a minute.

I believe she wasn't supervising him properly.

Like someone mentioned before : you have to prevent a kid from getting in dangerous situations.

If he was swinging too high she should have told him not to do it. Simple.

It was easy to forsee he would fell off the swing.

OP, I think you should seriously consider getting a room full of foam, so your child will never get injured. And it is best to stay in all day in that foam room.

That's how children develop Foam Lung, from breathing in foam dust all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She took her eyes of my son for more than a minute.

I believe she wasn't supervising him properly.

Like someone mentioned before : you have to prevent a kid from getting in dangerous situations.

If he was swinging too high she should have told him not to do it. Simple.

It was easy to forsee he would fell off the swing.

OP, I think you should seriously consider getting a room full of foam, so your child will never get injured. And it is best to stay in all day in that foam room.

That's how children develop Foam Lung, from breathing in foam dust all day.

Perhaps a bubble room would be better. Or a Bubble suit where her has to roll everywhere. Goodness knows we don't want him walking or running since he might trip on the sidewalk and get hurt. Then who would OP fire or sue? OP Grow up. Kids get hurt. Deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Op, just fire her. It's obvious that is what you want to do. Best that she finds another employer since you don't trust her anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Injuries at the playground are part of being a kid. It is unfortunate that your child broke his leg, but exploring and playing hard are good for kids. And swinging too high isn't really a thing. You can't tell me that when you were four you didn't swing as high as you could go and then jump off.

I have never told a child they were swinging too high, even if I thought they were (in which case I was standing behind them far enough back to not be hit, but close enough to get to them if they fell, no I wouldn't have been able to catch them). However, I do believe that four-year-olds should be prevented from jumping, and if they disobey, they are done swinging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Injuries at the playground are part of being a kid. It is unfortunate that your child broke his leg, but exploring and playing hard are good for kids. And swinging too high isn't really a thing. You can't tell me that when you were four you didn't swing as high as you could go and then jump off.

I have never told a child they were swinging too high, even if I thought they were (in which case I was standing behind them far enough back to not be hit, but close enough to get to them if they fell, no I wouldn't have been able to catch them). However, I do believe that four-year-olds should be prevented from jumping, and if they disobey, they are done swinging.

How exactly do you prevent a child from jumping? they're in control of whether or not they let go.

[Anonymous]

MB here. Also a lawyer. Don't bother suing - you won't win. How would you ever establish the standard of care for how high to swing? Among other problems. Regardless . . .

Your post asked "what would you do?" I trust our nanny enormously, so I would chalk it up to an accident and move on. But the trust is key. Of course, accidents can and do happen under anyone's watch, so you either trust that your nanny is supervising and preventing injury to the extent reasonably possible or you don't. You seem to have lost trust in this nanny, so let her go.

Either way, no reason she should offer to come in over the weekend to care for your son. Why would you need help with that? You are his mother. You should be able to deal with this. I know it's annoying listening to the whining and dealing with the cast, but such is parenthood . . .

[Anonymous]

Which you sound like a nightmare, Op. It was an accident and now you want free labor?? Please fire this nanny so she can go find a job with someone normal.

[Anonymous]

Four year olds can be really tough on the playground. They don't listen and want to take risks because it's fun and exciting and they can move really fast. It was an accident and you have no idea what would have happened if you had been there. One child I was watching tried to jump off his swing because he saw the kid next to him doing it. He jumped at the wrong time and hit his face on the ground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Injuries at the playground are part of being a kid. It is unfortunate that your child broke his leg, but exploring and playing hard are good for kids. And swinging too high isn't really a thing. You can't tell me that when you were four you didn't swing as high as you could go and then jump off.

I have never told a child they were swinging too high, even if I thought they were (in which case I was standing behind them far enough back to not be hit, but close enough to get to them if they fell, no I wouldn't have been able to catch them). However, I do believe that four-year-olds should be prevented from jumping, and if they disobey, they are done swinging.

How exactly do you prevent a child from jumping? they're in control of whether or not they let go.

If your charge is reckless, uncontrollable, and doesn't listen or head warnings and advice then you simply don't put him in situations beyond his control/maturity. If I was a nanny I would let my 4 and 6 year old do things I would never let some of the other children I have met do, because my kids are very well behaved and mature, while so many other kids are wild and uncontrollable.

I would let my 6 year old do something like Go-Karts because I know he could listen, understand, and follow the rules while many other kids would just be dangerous and wild and likely get hurt or hurt someone else, so as an adult I would prevent them from being able to do that by not letting them participate in that activity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Which you sound like a nightmare, Op. It was an accident and now you want free labor?? Please fire this nanny so she can go find a job with someone normal.

PP here. Who said "free labor"...??
OP wrote:
"And I am surprised she didn't offer any help - like coming on weekend and taking care of DS."

Try to be objective and not so agressive nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son broke his leg at a playground.

He was under nanny supervision.

He is only 4 and he won't be able to walk for the next 6-8 weeks.

What would you do if you were me?

I hear you OP. It's awful. It happened to my daughter 2 months ago. She broke her arm on nanny's watch because nanny was texting her friend... We fired her the same day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son broke his leg at a playground.

He was under nanny supervision.

He is only 4 and he won't be able to walk for the next 6-8 weeks.

What would you do if you were me?

I hear you OP. It's awful. It happened to my daughter 2 months ago. She broke her arm on nanny's watch because nanny was texting her friend... We fired her the same day.

Did you also punish you daughter severely like with a belt ? Clearly your dd did something wrong if she was being so bad she broke her own arm.