Nanny using our car to visit her house with the baby during the day

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Oh, shut up, idiot troll.

I don't understand your problem but you are incredible rude.
We are all here to answer some questions and help each other with different points of view and if i think that
the gps thing wasn't ok and she should rather talk to her nanny...so what?
But calling someone an idiot is not just rude but immature as well!

[Anonymous]

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Oh really? So the gps wasn't installed to control where she was going?

Oh, shut up, idiot troll.

Anger issues?????

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:many of the professional MB/DB that hire nannies work in offices with security cameras in all areas, security passes as you go in and out of the building, colleagues and bosses nearby and regular meetings to check on your work progress and what you are up to. It is simply a function of working life that if someone pays you to do a job they expect you to be accountable for pretty much most of that time.

It astounds me that some vocal nannies feel that this is somehow an invasion of their privacy. It is not your private time, you are actually working and therefore should be prepared to be accountable for what you are doing. Someone who starts regularly disappearing for an unexplained hour at a time will get called out in almost all professions. Not sure there should be a special exception for nannies.

What astounds me is that you even hire such people and then pretend you have a nanny.

This doesn't even make sense. You can be as diligent as you want in background checks and calling references etc but sometimes you have no idea who you are hiring until they actually start working. I wouldn't be so quick to judge.

I do have an opinion about people who leave their kids with someone who "you have no idea who you're hiring".

So how do you feel about this scenario? A family interviews a nanny multiple times, she's good with the children, they call her references and they all say great things about her, they run a background check that comes up clean and they decide to hire the nanny. Then once she's there they notice the extra mileage on their car and discover the nanny was going to her house everyday and lying about it. What else exactly should the parents have done prior to hiring the nanny?

[Anonymous]

This happened to me once. I had a part-time nanny who was great in many ways: A bit young, but highly educated in a child-related field, lots of part-time experience with kids, good references, very polished and engaging, and sweet in her interaction with the baby.

We always encouraged this nanny to take our infant out for walks. A couple of times she mentioned that she had taken the baby up to her neighborhood, which is a fairly long, but doable, walk from our house. I didn't think much of it, because I tend to take long city walks myself and I thought it was great for the baby to get fresh air. One day she stayed out for an unusually long time (I was working from home so I noticed). I called her cell to check on them. It turns out she had been taking the baby on the subway to her apartment and leaving her on a towel on the floor while she tidied up her place.

I think the nanny knew she was pushing the limits of appropriate behavior, which is why she used to casually disclose some but not all of the information (i.e. took the baby up to x neighborhood as opposed to took the baby to my home because I prefer to provide care there). The baby wasn't yet mobile and still slept a lot, so aside from the unnecessary subway trip, it wasn't really a safety issue. However, the fact that nanny had started doing this regularly without clear disclosure, and for increasingly long stretches of time, showed me that she was bored and my child's needs would always be secondary to her own.

I now give all nannies and sitters guidelines for where they can take the kids at any time without advance discussion (i.e., the library, a couple of community centers, three playgrounds, a stroller zone of a couple miles, and all the retail and playdate options within that zone). Beyond that, all destinations need to be discussed with me in advance. I'm always open to new places if proposed by a nanny, but I will never again assume that a nanny will share my sense of appropriate ways to spend her workday.

[Anonymous]

OP if you don't say anything then she will continue to do it and the time will get longer and longer. If you don't want her doing it, let her no. Don't mention the GPS but tell her your concerns and if she continues to do it then she's a liar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:many of the professional MB/DB that hire nannies work in offices with security cameras in all areas, security passes as you go in and out of the building, colleagues and bosses nearby and regular meetings to check on your work progress and what you are up to. It is simply a function of working life that if someone pays you to do a job they expect you to be accountable for pretty much most of that time.

It astounds me that some vocal nannies feel that this is somehow an invasion of their privacy. It is not your private time, you are actually working and therefore should be prepared to be accountable for what you are doing. Someone who starts regularly disappearing for an unexplained hour at a time will get called out in almost all professions. Not sure there should be a special exception for nannies.

What astounds me is that you even hire such people and then pretend you have a nanny.

This doesn't even make sense. You can be as diligent as you want in background checks and calling references etc but sometimes you have no idea who you are hiring until they actually start working. I wouldn't be so quick to judge.

+1000 - I've seen all the nanny horror stories which is why I would most definitely install nanny cams and GPS devices. If the nanny doesn't like it she can find work elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Wow really? I don't think I would be able to trust her after that. Ever. That's pretty devious if you were clear about logging activities.

[Anonymous]

Most people (agencies included, btw) aren't equipped to hire a nanny. You need many more skills than a simple checklist.

[holmanam9]

I would not tell the nanny about the gps. I would just tell her that you had been noticing unaccounted for mileage on your
vehicle, and ask her if she knew anything about it. Maybe she will be forthcoming. If she is honest tell her your expectations, if she says she "doesn't know", or lies call her out and tell her that your car has a gps.

[Anonymous]

You need to find a new nanny, OP. Regardless of what she has done, once she finds out about the GPS, she will quit (as would most people, whether or not they were doing anything wrong).

Learn from this experience and move on, and try to be a bit more honest on your end of things as well.

Neither of you are in the right here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to find a new nanny, OP. Regardless of what she has done, once she finds out about the GPS, she will quit (as would most people, whether or not they were doing anything wrong).

Learn from this experience and move on, and try to be a bit more honest on your end of things as well.

Neither of you are in the right here.

Agree. I feel sorry for the poor child so often caught in the middle of this kind of rampant nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Any update, OP??

[Anonymous]

OP, having been through a similar experience, there is a decent chance that if you tell her to stop, she'll stop for a while. Then she'll do it again. The GPS is a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP, having been through a similar experience, there is a decent chance that if you tell her to stop, she'll stop for a while. Then she'll do it again. The GPS is a good idea.

I have a headache just reading about this nonsense. You sure put up with a lot of drama. Something tells me you keep all this secret from your boss, or you'd get fired for being this distracted from your office duties.