How to professionally quit a family

[ReiGun]

Been a nanny for 9 years. Im college educated, active, creative and fun. Every day its something new and controlling. She treats me as if I dont know anything, makes me work while sick after ShE got me sick and even posted my job on a nanny site following that. I never took a day off during that time either just worked sick. I recently found they have inflated my hourly wage and put 40 hours to avoid paying 10 hours of OT. I have this in writing as well. Its been 3 months and I cant do it anymore-she is a nightmare and theres no autonomy. Her kid only has chalk and crayons and i dont feel i can do any other activities. She spies on me through her office window and if her child cries asks me what im doing wrong. I am watching her newborn as well. Shell talk to the toddler and instructs me on what to do or if i make a suggestion to the toddler like “lunch at the park or home” the mom will chime in “olive is going to have lunch at home”but then says i can do whatever I want.

Now theyre potty training their older daughter and letting her piss herself and have no method in place and expect me to sleep train the baby girl on top of that. They thought initially the naked method would work and it didn’t surprise surprise. Shes 1.5 years old. Shes not open to any input or advice and gets snippy “well i want to do it this way”. I had to correct her and tell her it was simply a suggestion should she need it.Shes weird about verbiage too not with just me but everyone like if you call her daughter “O” when her name is Olive and will say “we call her Olive lets keep it that way”or if im being silly and hike the ball under my legs to her shell be like “we dont support football in our household”. Or like ill usually clean up the sink and kitchen even though its not in the contract and shell tell me “the dishwashers full” as if im supposed to do it. She leaves her dishes now cause she knows ill clean it up. Im over it, done. Shes one of those polite professional people up close who is fake nice. How do i exit correctly?

Im not interested in staying a moment later. I have tried to convince myself I can but i cannot. I have enough savings to not work for 2 months at all. Should i pursue any recourse for the OT theyre shorting me or file an unemployment cause based on it?

[Anonymous]

What does your contract say about notice? I’d text them that your last day is ___ etc and if they give you crap say, it’s today then I don’t feel comfortable coming back . Nobody wants to be treated like that . Best of luck

[Anonymous]

If you want to quit professionally then give them a letter saying you've decided to move on and this is your official two weeks notice, and your last day of work will be [two weeks from that date] and then email them the exact same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want to quit professionally then give them a letter saying you've decided to move on and this is your official two weeks notice, and your last day of work will be [two weeks from that date] and then email them the exact same thing.

+1

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP I am so sorry that you have been dealing w/all of this lately!

This truly sounds like the job from hell.
As for your MomBoss….??
She also sounds like a living nightmare to work for.

She is a HUGE micromanager & she truly needs to stay home + raise her own kids in my humble opinion.

:0
I know that you asked how to leave this job in a professional manner (I totally commend you for wanting to do that as most people would not!) however like you also stated - you cannot continue on w/the current status quo.

In all honesty, I would just not show up to work after collecting your last paycheck.
Period.
But if you truly do not want to burn this bridge > two weeks notice is sufficient here.

I wish you all the best in your search for a brand-new family to work for!

[Anonymous]

I’ve just given notice this past Monday; very similar situation if not worse. Thought i could ride it for as long as i could and my health paid a toll. I basically said I’m moving on and position not longer a fit(18 month old boy-got him when he was just born-now expecting baby #2 early Feb baby and toddler will use clothe diapers and wipes(had done cloth diapers for 18 months already) meal prep for kid, per care BUT not doing cat boxes, she asked several times to do her own laundry-said a firm NO-dust plants(i mean several indoors plants)all this while caring for a child. Mom comes from wealth and treats everyone like second class, never to an end of year bonus and has list of items to do list on shared note… i also stopped that. You have to walk away for your own sanity, wish you the best!!

[Anonymous]

ReiGun wrote:Been a nanny for 9 years. Im college educated, active, creative and fun. Every day its something new and controlling. She treats me as if I dont know anything, makes me work while sick after ShE got me sick and even posted my job on a nanny site following that. I never took a day off during that time either just worked sick. I recently found they have inflated my hourly wage and put 40 hours to avoid paying 10 hours of OT. I have this in writing as well. Its been 3 months and I cant do it anymore-she is a nightmare and theres no autonomy. Her kid only has chalk and crayons and i dont feel i can do any other activities. She spies on me through her office window and if her child cries asks me what im doing wrong. I am watching her newborn as well. Shell talk to the toddler and instructs me on what to do or if i make a suggestion to the toddler like “lunch at the park or home” the mom will chime in “olive is going to have lunch at home”but then says i can do whatever I want.

Now theyre potty training their older daughter and letting her piss herself and have no method in place and expect me to sleep train the baby girl on top of that. They thought initially the naked method would work and it didn’t surprise surprise. Shes 1.5 years old. Shes not open to any input or advice and gets snippy “well i want to do it this way”. I had to correct her and tell her it was simply a suggestion should she need it.Shes weird about verbiage too not with just me but everyone like if you call her daughter “O” when her name is Olive and will say “we call her Olive lets keep it that way”or if im being silly and hike the ball under my legs to her shell be like “we dont support football in our household”. Or like ill usually clean up the sink and kitchen even though its not in the contract and shell tell me “the dishwashers full” as if im supposed to do it. She leaves her dishes now cause she knows ill clean it up. Im over it, done. Shes one of those polite professional people up close who is fake nice. How do i exit correctly?

Im not interested in staying a moment later. I have tried to convince myself I can but i cannot. I have enough savings to not work for 2 months at all. Should i pursue any recourse for the OT theyre shorting me or file an unemployment cause based on it?

You don't have to give a reason. Just give a written resignation saying that your last day will be. Be prepared to be let go on the spot.

[Anonymous]

ReiGun wrote:Been a nanny for 9 years. Im college educated, active, creative and fun. Every day its something new and controlling. She treats me as if I dont know anything, makes me work while sick after ShE got me sick and even posted my job on a nanny site following that. I never took a day off during that time either just worked sick. I recently found they have inflated my hourly wage and put 40 hours to avoid paying 10 hours of OT. I have this in writing as well. Its been 3 months and I cant do it anymore-she is a nightmare and theres no autonomy. Her kid only has chalk and crayons and i dont feel i can do any other activities. She spies on me through her office window and if her child cries asks me what im doing wrong. I am watching her newborn as well. Shell talk to the toddler and instructs me on what to do or if i make a suggestion to the toddler like “lunch at the park or home” the mom will chime in “olive is going to have lunch at home”but then says i can do whatever I want.

Now theyre potty training their older daughter and letting her piss herself and have no method in place and expect me to sleep train the baby girl on top of that. They thought initially the naked method would work and it didn’t surprise surprise. Shes 1.5 years old. Shes not open to any input or advice and gets snippy “well i want to do it this way”. I had to correct her and tell her it was simply a suggestion should she need it.Shes weird about verbiage too not with just me but everyone like if you call her daughter “O” when her name is Olive and will say “we call her Olive lets keep it that way”or if im being silly and hike the ball under my legs to her shell be like “we dont support football in our household”. Or like ill usually clean up the sink and kitchen even though its not in the contract and shell tell me “the dishwashers full” as if im supposed to do it. She leaves her dishes now cause she knows ill clean it up. Im over it, done. Shes one of those polite professional people up close who is fake nice. How do i exit correctly?

Im not interested in staying a moment later. I have tried to convince myself I can but i cannot. I have enough savings to not work for 2 months at all. Should i pursue any recourse for the OT theyre shorting me or file an unemployment cause based on it?

Cash you final pay check and never look back. Block her and husband's cell numbers. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

ReiGun wrote:Been a nanny for 9 years. Im college educated, active, creative and fun. Every day its something new and controlling. She treats me as if I dont know anything, makes me work while sick after ShE got me sick and even posted my job on a nanny site following that. I never took a day off during that time either just worked sick. I recently found they have inflated my hourly wage and put 40 hours to avoid paying 10 hours of OT. I have this in writing as well. Its been 3 months and I cant do it anymore-she is a nightmare and theres no autonomy. Her kid only has chalk and crayons and i dont feel i can do any other activities. She spies on me through her office window and if her child cries asks me what im doing wrong. I am watching her newborn as well. Shell talk to the toddler and instructs me on what to do or if i make a suggestion to the toddler like “lunch at the park or home” the mom will chime in “olive is going to have lunch at home”but then says i can do whatever I want.

Now theyre potty training their older daughter and letting her piss herself and have no method in place and expect me to sleep train the baby girl on top of that. They thought initially the naked method would work and it didn’t surprise surprise. Shes 1.5 years old. Shes not open to any input or advice and gets snippy “well i want to do it this way”. I had to correct her and tell her it was simply a suggestion should she need it.Shes weird about verbiage too not with just me but everyone like if you call her daughter “O” when her name is Olive and will say “we call her Olive lets keep it that way”or if im being silly and hike the ball under my legs to her shell be like “we dont support football in our household”. Or like ill usually clean up the sink and kitchen even though its not in the contract and shell tell me “the dishwashers full” as if im supposed to do it. She leaves her dishes now cause she knows ill clean it up. Im over it, done. Shes one of those polite professional people up close who is fake nice. How do i exit correctly?

Im not interested in staying a moment later. I have tried to convince myself I can but i cannot. I have enough savings to not work for 2 months at all. Should i pursue any recourse for the OT theyre shorting me or file an unemployment cause based on it?

What is with the bolded part? Is there a particular reason for that or is she just looking for something else to complain at you about? Quit. File for unemployment.

[Anonymous]

Your Mom Boss sounds like an entitled Princess.

You do not have to offer a reason for quitting.

You can always make up a lie if you prefer not to leave behind a burned bridge.

GL.

[Anonymous]

Quit.

[Anonymous]

Hi, Thank you so much for the employment opportunity. My last day will be November 4th. Thank you for your understanding.

[Anonymous]

I’m confused what you mean about the OT? Can you explain? I know it’s not the question but I’m trying to understand the financial issue.

[Anonymous]

Two weeks notice.