May start PT job with a newborn.. grandparents have long visits

[Anonymous]

So I am a former nanny who has two kids ages 4 and 8. There is a family in my immediate neighborhood which is a small townhouse community. They have a baby who will be 6 weeks when I start. They only need care part time I.e 10 hours a week. Right now a grandparent is staying with them and this person will need a break when her daughter (mom boss) goes back to work in person. Dad works from home. The family are south Asian immigrants and I happen to have a husband who is also south Asian but from a different country than them. It seems perfect because I am busy enough with my own kids. I was looking for a way to make extra money and was surprised to find this opportunity so quickly. We met just a few days after I joined a childcare website. Even though my husband is from a similar culture his family doesn’t come here for long visits. We always go to his country. I’m a little nervous things could come up that may make me uncomfortable with the grandparents. Any advice would be appreciated. I will not be bringing my own child to work with me but they are fine if I take walks with the baby and my kids around our neighborhood. Our neighborhood is very small … there are only 50 or so houses and it’s kind of like a little island because we can’t walk to other communities. I am no longer local to the DC area. For my rate I asked for $16. Since it’s only 10 hours a week I doubt we will take taxes out. I have another PT job that’s not nannying and I pay taxes with that job. Since DH makes a lot more than me we are taxed at 22 percent for my income. It’s really sucks so I would be okay with cash since it’s very partime.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]So I am a former nanny who has two kids ages 4 and 8. There is a family in my immediate neighborhood which is a small townhouse community. They have a baby who will be 6 weeks when I start. They only need care part time I.e 10 hours a week. Right now a grandparent is staying with them and this person will need a break when her daughter (mom boss) goes back to work in person. Dad works from home. The family are south Asian immigrants and I happen to have a husband who is also south Asian but from a different country than them. It seems perfect because I am busy enough with my own kids. I was looking for a way to make extra money and was surprised to find this opportunity so quickly. We met just a few days after I joined a childcare website. Even though my husband is from a similar culture his family doesn’t come here for long visits. We always go to his country. I’m a little nervous things could come up that may make me uncomfortable with the grandparents. Any advice would be appreciated. I will not be bringing my own child to work with me but they are fine if I take walks with the baby and my kids around our neighborhood. Our neighborhood is very small … there are only 50 or so houses and it’s kind of like a little island because we can’t walk to other communities. I am no longer local to the DC area. For my rate I asked for $16. Since it’s only 10 hours a week I doubt we will take taxes out. I have another PT job that’s not nannying and I pay taxes with that job. Since DH makes a lot more than me we are taxed at 22 percent for my income. It’s really sucks so I would be okay with cash since it’s very partime.







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Op here. I am concerned I may get micromanaged but it’s only 10 hours broken up over a few days. It’s also possible that next year (2025) when my son goes to kindergarten it could turn into a full time job. I haven’t nannied in so many years. I’m sure there are things I am not thinking about. Nannies can be treated differently in other countries so I will need to establish boundaries of what I am comfortable doing. When we visit DHs sister they have so much help! They have a cook, and two nanny’s.

[Anonymous]

$16 an hour is reasonable if you have your child with you but I would ask $22-25 an hour if your child ins't with you.

[Anonymous]

The father works from home and the grandparent is there. You will be micromanaged because that grandparent will watch and correct everything you do. RUN as fast as you can from this job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The father works from home and the grandparent is there. You will be micromanaged because that grandparent will watch and correct everything you do. RUN as fast as you can from this job.

Op here. Normally I would agree with you but my situation has changed a lot since I am at home with my kids during the week and I like that setup. I’m also around the moms age (maybe older). Her husband seems shy and like he will keep to himself. My husband is the same way. I wouldn’t have to make a lot of awkward small talk with him because culturally that’s not expected. That’s a plus for me. The grand parents will change. Her parents are here now but eventually his will come and they will switch. It’s only 10 hours a week.

[Anonymous]

It had better be a huge house so you can separate from the rest of the population living there.

I say NO.

[Anonymous]

If you take the job you had better male it clear you do not do any cleaning or cooking or laundry outside the baby stuff.

You will need to clearly say " Sorry, Grandma, you are no longer in Sri Lanka. Let me hand you some pamphlets on employee rights in the US."

[Anonymous]

I mean try it and see right?
As long as it’s not crazy hot you can go for walks with the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you take the job you had better male it clear you do not do any cleaning or cooking or laundry outside the baby stuff.

You will need to clearly say " Sorry, Grandma, you are no longer in Sri Lanka. Let me hand you some pamphlets on employee rights in the US."

Op here. I met with a family yesterday and found a better position. Their child is exactly the same age as my youngest. They are fine with us doing our usual summer activities ( swim lessons, museum’s etc) and she can come to my house. I can look for a different position in the fall. Also I thought for sure the family would be okay with $16 but they countered with $12!!! I couldn’t believe it and that was with my kids not coming with me. I told them I am pursuing a different option and wished them the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean try it and see right?
As long as it’s not crazy hot you can go for walks with the baby.

Op here. You never know. I had a similar position years ago and grandmother didn’t want me to take the baby out of the house by myself. They wanted grandma there to babysit me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you take the job you had better male it clear you do not do any cleaning or cooking or laundry outside the baby stuff.

You will need to clearly say " Sorry, Grandma, you are no longer in Sri Lanka. Let me hand you some pamphlets on employee rights in the US."

Op here. I met with a family yesterday and found a better position. Their child is exactly the same age as my youngest. They are fine with us doing our usual summer activities ( swim lessons, museum’s etc) and she can come to my house. I can look for a different position in the fall. Also I thought for sure the family would be okay with $16 but they countered with $12!!! I couldn’t believe it and that was with my kids not coming with me. I told them I am pursuing a different option and wished them the best.

Wow!
No matter what part of the US you are located in, $12/HR is highway robbery!!

Unless you can watch the baby in your own home w/both of your children home too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you take the job you had better male it clear you do not do any cleaning or cooking or laundry outside the baby stuff.

You will need to clearly say " Sorry, Grandma, you are no longer in Sri Lanka. Let me hand you some pamphlets on employee rights in the US."

Op here. It’s a high cost of living city on the east coast. They are advertising $11-18 now with 4 hours a day schedule. One parent works from home and a grandparent will be home most of the time it seems. I’m just doing this once a week.

Op here. I met with a family yesterday and found a better position. Their child is exactly the same age as my youngest. They are fine with us doing our usual summer activities ( swim lessons, museum’s etc) and she can come to my house. I can look for a different position in the fall. Also I thought for sure the family would be okay with $16 but they countered with $12!!! I couldn’t believe it and that was with my kids not coming with me. I told them I am pursuing a different option and wished them the best.

Wow!
No matter what part of the US you are located in, $12/HR is highway robbery!!

Unless you can watch the baby in your own home w/both of your children home too.

Op here. It’s a high cost of living city on the east coast. They are advertising $11-18 now with 4 hours a day schedule. One parent works from home and a grandparent will be home most of the time. Maybe a college student or someone retired. A SAHM like me wouldn’t be able to do this year round since we have kids in school. I have worked with the baby two times now and it has gone well. They only live 7 so houses down from me. I thought I had a consistent once a week job but now I see a post looking for Monday to Friday morning care.