Snow Days

[Anonymous]

Do families expect their nanny to come in on snow days even if the roads a not the best but you can still get around it?

The family I work for hates when I take off so I rarely do. Today is a snow day the dad is at work but the mom is home and working but the roads where I live aren’t cleared yet so I explained that via text and I got no response. This is a normal thing they do if I’m sick and I call out they do not respond, so many times I go in still when I’m not feeling great. All of the times I’ve been sick it was from them but they don’t care. They make me feel guilty a lot. When I first started the dad got Covid gave it to me and the mom asked me to come in, I didn’t of course. Then a year later same thing the mom caught Covid gave it to me asked me to come in after a few days. I once loved working there now lately I just feel unappreciated and if I bring anything up to the mom she says I’m disrespectful. It’s just a lot.

[Anonymous]

Get away from these people. Start looking for a new position. If they don't respond to you then find a new position and stop showing up. When they text to find out where you are don't respond.

[Anonymous]

Look for a new family. I’m sure you have PTO and sick time . Use it. And if weather is bad they should care about your safety. Especially if one parent is home

[Anonymous]

I could not work for this family OP!

They sound completely self-absorbed, selfish + just inconsiderate.

It is rude of them to ignore your text messages to them (passive/aggressive much?)

And your Mom Boss had the nerve to tell you that YOU were the disrespectful one…??!
What is wrong w/them??!

It is entirely up to them to secure back-up childcare for when you are sick.

I would issue them my walking papers as soon as possible if I were in your shoes!

[Anonymous]

They don't reply to your texts because you've shown them that if they don't reply, you'll still show up.

[Anonymous]

If the roads are not safe, you stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look for a new family. I’m sure you have PTO and sick time . Use it. And if weather is bad they should care about your safety. Especially if one parent is home

OP here, I do have sick time and vacation time. They honestly don't care and I'm seeing it more every day. I am placing ads hoping to find a new family who will appreciate me and my past families are helping me find a new family as well. As much as I love caring for their little one I have to go and today solidified that.

[Anonymous]

The DC government workers had to report to their job on time yesterday, and not even with a delay. What would make your job any different? You sound entitled and just because you're dealing with families on an emotional level as the subject is their child, you want to guilt them to give you what is unreasonably favorable for only you.

Parents hire nannies exactly for these moments to have back up care.

In cases like this, if the government shuts down and most offices close, then it's understandable. But if the local government employees have to show up at work, daycare workers have to show up, and private local companies & stores are open, then they have every right to expect the same from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The DC government workers had to report to their job on time yesterday, and not even with a delay. What would make your job any different? You sound entitled and just because you're dealing with families on an emotional level as the subject is their child, you want to guilt them to give you what is unreasonably favorable for only you.

Parents hire nannies exactly for these moments to have back up care.

In cases like this, if the government shuts down and most offices close, then it's understandable. But if the local government employees have to show up at work, daycare workers have to show up, and private local companies & stores are open, then they have every right to expect the same from you.

You sound just like one of these “ENTITLED AF PARENTS” if the roads are not safe for her to get to work then the family can go screw themselves. Nannies, teachers, babysitters, daycare attendants are people too and it’s sad how low some of you parents think of them. The family she works for sound self absorbed and to tell a nanny to come to work with Covid that you gave her should be against the law and what if she has a family member with medical issues that she passes that too then what?! People like you and the family she works for is why the world is how it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The DC government workers had to report to their job on time yesterday, and not even with a delay. What would make your job any different? You sound entitled and just because you're dealing with families on an emotional level as the subject is their child, you want to guilt them to give you what is unreasonably favorable for only you.

Parents hire nannies exactly for these moments to have back up care.

In cases like this, if the government shuts down and most offices close, then it's understandable. But if the local government employees have to show up at work, daycare workers have to show up, and private local companies & stores are open, then they have every right to expect the same from you.

You sound just like one of these “ENTITLED AF PARENTS” if the roads are not safe for her to get to work then the family can go screw themselves. Nannies, teachers, babysitters, daycare attendants are people too and it’s sad how low some of you parents think of them. The family she works for sound self absorbed and to tell a nanny to come to work with Covid that you gave her should be against the law and what if she has a family member with medical issues that she passes that too then what?! People like you and the family she works for is why the world is how it is.

It really depends on the situation. If parents can make it work, nanny should stay home but if they cannot, they should find a way to help nanny come.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny stays over (and brings her child with her if she desires) the day/night *before* a predicted storm. She always keeps some personal things here and is very comfortable with our family. She uses the pull-out sofa in the family room and has a dresser there and her own bathroom when she needs to stay over. She is compensated of course for this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do families expect their nanny to come in on snow days even if the roads a not the best but you can still get around it?

The family I work for hates when I take off so I rarely do. Today is a snow day the dad is at work but the mom is home and working but the roads where I live aren’t cleared yet so I explained that via text and I got no response. This is a normal thing they do if I’m sick and I call out they do not respond, so many times I go in still when I’m not feeling great. All of the times I’ve been sick it was from them but they don’t care. They make me feel guilty a lot. When I first started the dad got Covid gave it to me and the mom asked me to come in, I didn’t of course. Then a year later same thing the mom caught Covid gave it to me asked me to come in after a few days. I once loved working there now lately I just feel unappreciated and if I bring anything up to the mom she says I’m disrespectful. It’s just a lot.

You MUST take care of yourself first and foremost; if the roads are unsafe to drive; just text them you aren’t showing up due to the weather conditions. Whether they respond or not, it’s up to them. You should not feel guilty, not your fault!

[Anonymous]

For this and many other reasons, the best fit for a nanny/family is one who lives nearby. Not all parents can take time off when it snows, but they might be able to pick the nanny up or she can walk or use public transportation. A local nanny is more likely to be reliable.

[Anonymous]

PP, in many areas of DMV nannies cannot be "local" because they cannot afford to live in the same area, so you are not being realistic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, in many areas of DMV nannies cannot be "local" because they cannot afford to live in the same area, so you are not being realistic

PP to whom you are responding, I get that this is generally the case, but we do not live in a high SES area. It's fairly modest, with home daycares and a few nannies mixed in.