Raise

[Anonymous]

Is $10 or $20 is a reasonable to ask for a raise? Typically, I work 12h shift and parents are not paying me when they go out for dinner or whenever after that. From waking the 2 kids, making breakfast, lunch, bath at each night, dinner and bed. I will say I’m 100% in charge. Parents are always around, kids are extremely difficult one is 3 years and a 8 months baby. The oldest goes to daycare 3 times a week for 2 hours. I’m a living nanny. Family took $5 less in their advertisement because they said when family comes I will be off or work few hours. They also said I will have a week of Thanksgiving and Christmas but they are not respecting all those. They travel alone 3 to 4 times a year without me and 5 to 7 times a years with me for national and international. They have a home in the Hampton and we go there for holidays, we go there once or twice a month. So my weekend is most there even though I’m not working. But when we are there they go out on the weekend or during the weekdays without paying me since they said I’m home. I always have my own salary whatever or not. It’s really demanding and I will say they’re very wealthy family. Most of the families in the Hampton have 2 Nannie’s with my same pay by doing rotational position and they work like 6 months over the year. My family consider that when they go on vacation I’m off with pay. It’s really annoying now because I feel I deserve much better. Also, they told me they are paying a lot since they can have an au pair for $200 a week. I’m a US citizen. The mom is not coming from a wealthy family so all her close friends are telling her they pay much less. How do you bring it up to the family please?

[Anonymous]

$20 an hour would be a huge raise.
What’s your hourly pay right now and how many hours a week do you work/get paid for?

[Anonymous]

Is $10 or $20 is a reasonable to ask for a raise?
Per hour? No, not reasonable

Typically, I work 12h shift and parents are not paying me when they go out for dinner or whenever after that.
Why not? Tell them they need to pay you, or you're allowed to leave the house if you aren't being paid.

From waking the 2 kids, making breakfast, lunch, bath at each night, dinner and bed. I will say I’m 100% in charge. Parents are always around, kids are extremely difficult one is 3 years and a 8 months baby. The oldest goes to daycare 3 times a week for 2 hours. I’m a living nanny.

Family took $5 less in their advertisement because they said when family comes I will be off or work few hours.
Why did you accept less pay? Is that $5 less per hour?

They also said I will have a week of Thanksgiving and Christmas but they are not respecting all those.
Do you have a contract with this written out? You should.

They travel alone 3 to 4 times a year without me and 5 to 7 times a years with me for national and international.
Who watches the kids when they're out of town? If it's you, are you paid for that time?

They have a home in the Hampton and we go there for holidays, we go there once or twice a month. So my weekend is most there even though I’m not working.
What do you mean? This makes zero sense.

But when we are there they go out on the weekend or during the weekdays without paying me since they said I’m home.
So don't be home. Leave. Go walk around.

I always have my own salary whatever or not.
This makes no sense. What do you mean?

It’s really demanding and I will say they’re very wealthy family. Most of the families in the Hampton have 2 Nannie’s with my same pay by doing rotational position and they work like 6 months over the year.
It doesn't matter what anyone else does. It matters how the family you work for treats you.

My family consider that when they go on vacation I’m off with pay.
How much are they gone? How much time off do you get paid?

It’s really annoying now because I feel I deserve much better.
So? Get a different job then.

Also, they told me they are paying a lot since they can have an au pair for $200 a week. I’m a US citizen. The mom is not coming from a wealthy family so all her close friends are telling her they pay much less. How do you bring it up to the family please?
If they want to go that route, they should. Why do you care if you're unhappy with the job?

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure how the fam would take the raise of $10 but it sounds too high. If you live-in and assuming they pay $15 hourly, you can certainly ask for $2 raise.
I'll encourage you to have the employer drafting a contract with all salary/benefits/pt0/holidays/health stipend along with the duties so when they ask to work over you ask for legal OT. I travel with family twice a year and I have a travel fee IF they fly me on weekend and a flat rate of $140 overnight when I'm away with them on vacation.
Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Thank you all for the reply!

1: I wanted this $10 or $15 raise because from their advertising they lower $5 and said they travel a lot. And, when a family member came I would be off or work few hours, which never happened.
2: they gave me the monitor and another baby is on the way.
3: when they go out they’re not paying me.
4: when we travel internationally, I’m in charge of the kids overnight because of the monitor and I’m not paid.
Therefor, if I add the overtime paid or when they go out hourly, I think adding $15 an hour is raisonnable.
It would cover when they go out and the overnight monitor.
Let do the math: if I have to charge them each night for overnight it would be $150 or $200 for the night or $100. It would cover when the kids wake up at night and I would take care of them. I finish to work at 8pm which is 12 hours shift and they usually go out around 7pm or 8pm and come back around 11pm if I heard them or mostly I don’t know what time they are coming back.
I accepted $5 less because I taught I will be off on Thanksgiving and Christmas for both 1 week each or when a family member comes. Now, I see that they screwed me. They want to go out whatever it pleased them without paying me and at my turn they want to count each day I’m taking off to replace it during the weekend, which is not fair. I’m working basically 24h which means 12 hours but 24 spirit. They just gave me a phone with a monitor and start asking me how the kids slept and since then they’re asking me every morning. Before, I told them I’m not working and I’m not in charge of the kids at night so I don’t know. After I said it, they started to have an attitude with me not saying “Hi” to me. They were very mean to me. From that I start to reply “Yes” to them and they were happy. It’s just I don’t like to change job alll the time but I feel like they are taking advantage of me. Also, I have another question:
When you travel do you charge separately of your salary?

[Anonymous]

OP, they're taking advantage of you and you're letting them. Nothing will change. Ask for $15 more an hour and they will laugh at you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all for the reply!

1: I wanted this $10 or $15 raise because from their advertising they lower $5 and said they travel a lot. And, when a family member came I would be off or work few hours, which never happened.
2: they gave me the monitor and another baby is on the way.
3: when they go out they’re not paying me.
4: when we travel internationally, I’m in charge of the kids overnight because of the monitor and I’m not paid.
Therefor, if I add the overtime paid or when they go out hourly, I think adding $15 an hour is raisonnable.
It would cover when they go out and the overnight monitor.
Let do the math: if I have to charge them each night for overnight it would be $150 or $200 for the night or $100. It would cover when the kids wake up at night and I would take care of them. I finish to work at 8pm which is 12 hours shift and they usually go out around 7pm or 8pm and come back around 11pm if I heard them or mostly I don’t know what time they are coming back.
I accepted $5 less because I taught I will be off on Thanksgiving and Christmas for both 1 week each or when a family member comes. Now, I see that they screwed me. They want to go out whatever it pleased them without paying me and at my turn they want to count each day I’m taking off to replace it during the weekend, which is not fair. I’m working basically 24h which means 12 hours but 24 spirit. They just gave me a phone with a monitor and start asking me how the kids slept and since then they’re asking me every morning. Before, I told them I’m not working and I’m not in charge of the kids at night so I don’t know. After I said it, they started to have an attitude with me not saying “Hi” to me. They were very mean to me. From that I start to reply “Yes” to them and they were happy. It’s just I don’t like to change job alll the time but I feel like they are taking advantage of me. Also, I have another question:
When you travel do you charge separately of your salary?

When I travel with the fam if it falls during the work week within my work hours 9AM-5PM I don’t charge travel fee BUT. A flat fee of $100 per night because I’m away from home. IF they need me to fly on the weekend (sat or sun) then, my OT rate is charged an hour before my departure in addition to the flat $100 per night(when i say night, I don’t mean being in charged of the child, its the night that I’m away from home.) I’m a FT nanny (live-out) and the travel clause is in the contract as well as the hours I’ll be working. This is written in the contract.
I see a lot of red flags in your job, I’d be looking for a new position, I couldn’t work for free either. And not having established hours during travel is insane.

[Anonymous]

Thank you this is very clear. I was very confusing about the travel arrangement. However, we will go to our contract and I will let you know. Is the $100 a day away from home could be applied to a live in nanny

[Anonymous]

Sorry, that IDK. My guess is if you’re working live-in Mon-Fri and go somewhere to stay the weekends(friend/relative)then I’d ask for that fee IF travel falls during your off days(Sat&Sun), hope it makes sense. Really wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

Quit

[Anonymous]

Quit and look for something else

[Anonymous]

Wow, just wow.

A HUGE yes OP!!

You are most definitely being taken full advantage of by your employers!

No way should they be leaving their children at home w/you & not paying you for that “since you are already in the home!!”
That is outrageous to hear!

Forget trying to negotiate a thing at this stage.
These people have shown you time + time again just what they are made of and nothing will be good enough for them at this point.

->> It is high time to simply cut your losses and move on to another position.
You are nothing but a slave to these parents and if you stay, they will only continue mistreating you.

I know leaving them must take time so began today formulating a plan to leave.
Save money, look for a brand-new living situation and basically make sure all your ducks are lined up before proceeding.

So sorry this family is doing this to you now.
But wishing you only the best of luck in moving on and away from this terrible family.