Salutations

[Anonymous]

I have a question for all Nannies and parents. I’m a foreign nanny but I have lived in this country for 25 years. I’m actually 48. All the families that I have worked for with a 23 years of experiences as live out nanny where well behave. I explain myself, when I come in
the morning and they are downstairs I say “good morning” if it’s Monday morning I asked them about the weekend. Well, now I’m a live in nanny since 3 years now because my husband passed away and one of my child is married and the other one in college. Therefore, I’m not paying rent to support her. However, it’s more convenient for me since I start at 6am and the parents are doctors so on call. My first year, they were nice and saying “good morning. The second year they expected me to tell them “good morning “ when they come in the kitchen. What I really feel disrespectful is that they talk to their children, saying good morning to them and asking them about they night and they just ignored me. I’m just curious if because I live in their home I should great them or not. But, in my culture it’s very disrespectful that you don’t great someone that you find in the room. I really need some advices and how to handle that. They really want me to stay and apparently they really need me. They haven’t found someone who will work for them for two years before I work for them.

[Anonymous]

Yes its rude - they should at least say hi even if its after the kids. Thats kind of sad that thats when they first see their children instead of getting them up themselves. It's rude not to say hi, but in my experience its REALLY rude for Latinos not to greet when you see them so it may feel even worse to you if you are Latina.

[Anonymous]

First thing in the morning, either my nanny or I say hello to each other. Same with DH if he is there when the nanny arrives. Common courtesy.

[Anonymous]

I agree, it doesn’t matter whether or not you live w/your Nanny Family (NF) now, it is always a great gesture to greet a cheerful “Good Morning” the first time you see them!

[Anonymous]

I think it’s semantics.
As long as you greet each other with a smile it shouldn’t matter who says it first.
I had a friend who told me my child was rude for not greeting her first when they met. She says in her culture ( Ghana) the child always greets the adult first.
We are not ghanan and as long as my child didn’t igmore you when you greeted her I’m good with that.

[Anonymous]

I’d look for a new job. It’s definitely rude and they’ve gotten comfortable and look at you as the help. I am sorry you have to deal with that

[Anonymous]

This is OP! Thank you all for the responses. I’m Latina and my ex husband was from Africa. In the African culture the child greets the adults when I went there. I also think that my employer doesn’t give me any consideration and they are very rude. When you come to any place it doesn’t matter if it’s your home but it’s a polite way to greet an adult and show your children how to respect people. But, I’m looking for a new position.