What is a good age to talk to kids about guns and smoking?

[Anonymous]

My MB has been talking about guns and smoking to the boy I babysit, he’s 4 years old. What I don’t like is that he’s told him who in their family smokes. Yesterday in the car they were stalking about DBs dad smoking, and I asked if they’re open to talk about this and telling him who in the family smokes. She got a little annoyed, I also added that a lot of people don’t want their kids to know that , f.ex. Grandma, uncle… smokes. It just doesn’t sit well with me and I just wanted to hint that I don’t like this whole gun and smoking talk. He’s also been talking about presidents, it really interests him, but she mentioned to him how some of those presidents wither died or almost died by gun. He will say “he had a gun to his head” and I’m like what?!?!?!
I’m not anti these things and I don’t care if she wants to tell her 4 year old about it, I just don’t feel comfortable and I asked the kid not to talk about it in front of me. What do you think or what do people usually do? I’ve been a nanny for almost 20 years and each family said
Oh my mom smokes, but please never tell the kids about it.
Also wondering what happens if he says in his new school stuff like that, will the teachers think it’s weird or is it common? Like why would DB want his son to know that his dad smokes? He told him that too.
Thank you!

[Anonymous]

I’ve left families like that. I just can’t support bad parents.

[Anonymous]

If you smoke, people will know. You think you hide it, but you don't. So yeah, people will talk about the fact that you smoke. If you're ashamed for a 4 yr old to know you do it, then maybe you should quit. There's nothing wrong with a 4 yr old knowing who is a smoker.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see anything wrong with them talking to their kid about this.

[Anonymous]

Foreign parents smoke.

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Everyone who are daily smoking please stop to this bad habit because it is harmful to your health.

[Anonymous]

The parents can discuss anything they like w/ their kids. If it creates uncomfortable moments at school that will be the parents' problem to handle. If you're uneasy it's fine to say "I'd rather talk about something else." and change the subject.

I talk about all kinds of things w/ my kids that I wouldn't expect (or want) our nanny to handle - sex, gender orientation, religion, social justice issues, money/income questions, etc... You just stay professional and do your job and stay out of things that aren't in your purview.