Question for the nannies

[Anonymous]

Hi!Im a nanny and I've been working for the same family for about 5 years now.
I'm not happy anymore working for them,the kids and the parents are very problematics.They have anxiety issues,worry too much about everything and this is starting to reflect in my personal life.I really love the kids(2 kids and another one on the way)and I feel really sad having to leave them but at the same time I feel that if I stay one more year I will go crazy.
Not to mention they don't pay me well.
The parents are leaving dishes in the dishwasher since Friday and when I come on Monday is more work for me to do.
Laundry everywhere,they never take the trash,it's just too much at this point.

My question is;What so I do???
Can I just quit like that?I feel so bad and I don't know what to tell them because honestly,I can't tell them the real reason why I'm leaving.
What would you do in my situation?
I don't want to disappoint them and leaving like that is not my character.

[Anonymous]

Sorry your job is becoming too much. I’ve experienced the same thing with a family that I liked them at the beginning but then they became too much to handle and ended up doing a lot of housework, tutoring, and meal prep for the mother(not to mention I was asked by Mom a few times if I knew how to patch holes in the bathroom…) this was a high profile family, they never paid me the overtime and when I asked to get mileage reimbursement Mother didn’t like it and said she thought that gasoline was included in my pay plan. Long story short, i got so tired of them that it took a toll in my health so I wrote a resignation letter and send it to the Recruiter first (recruiter was aware of the drama the parents were going through) and then I showed up Monday am and I handed over the letter to the mom. I careless of her reaction(she cried and couldn’t understand why I was leaving) so I gave her 2 weeks notice according to contract. After she read the letter she told
To come back later(in my head I wasn’t coming back-nope!)so then she texted me saying no need to come back at all. I told her that she needed to make sure to have the expenses check by Tuesday first thing in the AM since I had use my CC and also to compensate the two weeks (according to contract we had this clearly written that if fam brakes or doesn’t give notice they ought to pay me.) Recruiter made sure I got my 2 weeks paid and expenses check overnight.

[Anonymous]

Look for another job, tell them you no longer feel comfortable with the job and are parting ways. If they have been nice to you(given bonus, salary raise over the years) then give 2 weeks notice out of curtesy. Sorry I know that must suck.

[Anonymous]

Don’t worry about disappointing them; if the position has become a burden and you’re not feeling comfortable and your health it’s being compromised you need to tell them it doesn’t work out anymore. If something goes down
On their end, best believe they’d give you two weeks to find another job(if that has been put in contract) if not, they’d let you go. You have to do what works best for you first and foremost. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry your job is becoming too much. I’ve experienced the same thing with a family that I liked them at the beginning but then they became too much to handle and ended up doing a lot of housework, tutoring, and meal prep for the mother(not to mention I was asked by Mom a few times if I knew how to patch holes in the bathroom…) this was a high profile family, they never paid me the overtime and when I asked to get mileage reimbursement Mother didn’t like it and said she thought that gasoline was included in my pay plan. Long story short, i got so tired of them that it took a toll in my health so I wrote a resignation letter and send it to the Recruiter first (recruiter was aware of the drama the parents were going through) and then I showed up Monday am and I handed over the letter to the mom. I careless of her reaction(she cried and couldn’t understand why I was leaving) so I gave her 2 weeks notice according to contract. After she read the letter she told
To come back later(in my head I wasn’t coming back-nope!)so then she texted me saying no need to come back at all. I told her that she needed to make sure to have the expenses check by Tuesday first thing in the AM since I had use my CC and also to compensate the two weeks (according to contract we had this clearly written that if fam brakes or doesn’t give notice they ought to pay me.) Recruiter made sure I got my 2 weeks paid and expenses check overnight.

OP here- Wow this sounds painful!
I'm glad you are out and had the courage to leave.
Thank you for sharing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look for another job, tell them you no longer feel comfortable with the job and are parting ways. If they have been nice to you(given bonus, salary raise over the years) then give 2 weeks notice out of curtesy. Sorry I know that must suck.

OP here- Thank you for your words

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t worry about disappointing them; if the position has become a burden and you’re not feeling comfortable and your health it’s being compromised you need to tell them it doesn’t work out anymore. If something goes down
On their end, best believe they’d give you two weeks to find another job(if that has been put in contract) if not, they’d let you go. You have to do what works best for you first and foremost. Good luck.

OP here- You are right.I need to find another family.
Thank you

[Anonymous]

OP, you do not have to touch the dishwasher or worry about trash at all, they will never actually ask you to do it if you just ignore the mess. I am a nanny and would never bother to go beyond child related duties. I know it would burn me out too soon. You let them use you, OP, so your option is to leave or to keep the job but stop doing housework and have an honest conversation that it does not work for you, doing all those extra things.

[Anonymous]

OP,

You are CHILD care, not HOUSE care. They are treating you like a maid, not a nanny.

They don't have your best interests at heart, yet you are their children's lifeline. Leave and don't feel bad about it.

[Anonymous]

This is why I don't start helping around the house with housekeeping chores that are not related with the childcare. Just a a couple of months and Families started to take advantage of me. Leaving every single thing in the sink, full of dirty dishes everyday, including theirs, waiting for me load and unload the dishwasher. Also leaving the trash overflowing; waiting for me to do it (treating me like their Housekeeper and maid) and they didn't want to lift a finger even cleaning up after themselves; thinking it was my responsibility which was not.

Every Monday it was a nightmare and a huge mess for me to clean up everything. Exactly like you, all dirty clothes on the floor; which they were not even able to put them into the baskets.

So OP. A good advice, Quit. Or you will be having a burn out that could take you to the hospital. Take care of yourself and start looking for a new Job. That it's the best decision that you could make. Your health should be the most important thing for you.. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

OP, while I believe giving notice is always the professional way to go - I also believe that if you feel as if your personal health is being negatively impacted it may be best for you to simply quit on the spot.

Good health is priceless & no amount of $$ is worth damaging your body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi!Im a nanny and I've been working for the same family for about 5 years now.
I'm not happy anymore working for them,the kids and the parents are very problematics.They have anxiety issues,worry too much about everything and this is starting to reflect in my personal life.I really love the kids(2 kids and another one on the way)and I feel really sad having to leave them but at the same time I feel that if I stay one more year I will go crazy.
Not to mention they don't pay me well.
The parents are leaving dishes in the dishwasher since Friday and when I come on Monday is more work for me to do.
Laundry everywhere,they never take the trash,it's just too much at this point.

My question is;What so I do???
Can I just quit like that?I feel so bad and I don't know what to tell them because honestly,I can't tell them the real reason why I'm leaving.
What would you do in my situation?
I don't want to disappoint them and leaving like that is not my character.

When you did all these extras once. It was once too many. If it isn't in your contract. Don't do it. Now would be a good time to find a new job before the new kid gets here. I shudder to think of the job creep then.

[Anonymous]

It’s too bad you can’t tell them the reason you are quitting. Parents like this always blame the kids for the nanny leaving.