Nanny is leaving us

[Anonymous]

My nanny is leaving after 5 years due to her health.We want to give her some money as a thank you for all her care and
love.She is like family.
How much should I give her?I want to be fair.
Thanks

[Anonymous]

Just give her as much as you can afford. There is no set amount. It sounds like you care and that means she cares for you as well so she will appreciate any help you can give. Also give her any pictures you can of the kids or anything related to the kids (something they made....). That stuff is priceless.

[Anonymous]

As much as you can afford.

[Anonymous]

I can’t even imagine the day our nanny will leave us. Makes me sad to think about not seeing her every week day.

Normal severance (which I know doesn’t apply but gives you a ball park) is two months salary. Our nanny gets an annual bonus starting at $2,500 a year for merit and has increased annually (4 years) to $4,000.

[Anonymous]

Ive heard a week’s salary per year. But of course you can give as little or more as you want.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny was with our family for about 3 years and relocated to FL. We gave her $3000. She was wonderful with our kids, we still miss her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As much as you can afford.

+ 1

I would do this.
You sound like a very caring as well as generous employer & your Nanny is lucky to have your family as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nanny is leaving after 5 years due to her health.We want to give her some money as a thank you for all her care and
love.She is like family.
How much should I give her?I want to be fair.
Thanks

She's been with you five years and working for you had wrecked her health and you are asking how much you should give he! ? The minimum you should give is two months pay but for five years, I would give Six months. If necessary, I would get a bank loan. She gave you give years of her life to keep your children happy and safe. Stop being so cheap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My nanny is leaving after 5 years due to her health.We want to give her some money as a thank you for all her care and
love.She is like family.
How much should I give her?I want to be fair.
Thanks

She's been with you five years and working for you had wrecked her health and you are asking how much you should give he! ? The minimum you should give is two months pay but for five years, I would give Six months. If necessary, I would get a bank loan. She gave you give years of her life to keep your children happy and safe. Stop being so cheap.

What a nasty reply. Where does it say Nanny's health is job related? Guessing you're a lousy entitled nanny who can't keep s job.

[Anonymous]

I honestly don’t know but the thought of our nanny leaving one day actually hurts!

For those of us with loving, devoted nannies - I hope you know how much we love you.

[Anonymous]

Side note: DS, 9, and I had lunch with his former nanny (zero to 3) yesterday. Nanny has kept very much in his life - seeing him once a week until he was five and then we moved two hours away so she sees him about once a month and FaceTimes with him all the time. She is family to my son and they’re still best buddies.

What I realized yesterday at lunch was how much I, the mother, love having nanny as a friend and touchstone. Those early years were such a blur for me but nanny has all the memories of DS’s first years and of me as a new mom. She was there day in and day out and can share so much that I forgot! Nanny was a blessing to me as well as my son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Side note: DS, 9, and I had lunch with his former nanny (zero to 3) yesterday. Nanny has kept very much in his life - seeing him once a week until he was five and then we moved two hours away so she sees him about once a month and FaceTimes with him all the time. She is family to my son and they’re still best buddies.

What I realized yesterday at lunch was how much I, the mother, love having nanny as a friend and touchstone. Those early years were such a blur for me but nanny has all the memories of DS’s first years and of me as a new mom. She was there day in and day out and can share so much that I forgot! Nanny was a blessing to me as well as my son.

Bull! Did you pay her accordingly? Atta girl doesn't pay the rent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Side note: DS, 9, and I had lunch with his former nanny (zero to 3) yesterday. Nanny has kept very much in his life - seeing him once a week until he was five and then we moved two hours away so she sees him about once a month and FaceTimes with him all the time. She is family to my son and they’re still best buddies.

What I realized yesterday at lunch was how much I, the mother, love having nanny as a friend and touchstone. Those early years were such a blur for me but nanny has all the memories of DS’s first years and of me as a new mom. She was there day in and day out and can share so much that I forgot! Nanny was a blessing to me as well as my son.

Bull! Did you pay her accordingly? Atta girl doesn't pay the rent.

Huh? I think you’re responding to a different post. Why would I pay our former nanny, now friend, to have lunch with us? We truly both love her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ive heard a week’s salary per year. But of course you can give as little or more as you want.

I came here to say this. We had a nanny for 7 years and we transitioned to AuPairs when our youngest entered 1st grade. Our nanny knew this was the plan from day 1, so she had a lot of time to find the perfect family after us. I still gave her a bonus of 7 weeks pay at the end as a thank you. My kids are now 13 and 16 and she’s still a part of the family. We see her a few times a year. She was instrumental in helping my kids feel safe, secure and loved when we were working.