How to tell them

[Anonymous]

I’m ready to move on with another family.
I feel like my time with the family I’ve been for almost 5 years has come to an end.
Love the kids and the family is nice but my work there has also been very stressful due to the family dynamics and I just feel ready to start a fresh new start.
How can I tell them I’m ready to move on?They have no idea that I feel this way and to be honest I don’t want to explain myself much but at the same time I want to be nice and professional.I’m feeling stuck in my decision because I don’t want to hurt them.

[Anonymous]

Start by saying how much you love the kids and how you have every intention of remaining in their lives, but that you need to move on to a new position. You can tweet the truth by saying you want to work with babies or work closer to your house for work a different schedule— but that is has nothing to do with your love for their kids!

Parents really want to hear that their children matter. You can also offer to help the kids transition to the new nanny.

[Anonymous]

First, do not tell them the truth of why you’re leaving if it will hurt their recommendation (which you need to be great) or hurt the kids (by telling you that you can never see them again).

Just think up some plausible reason and give them a couple extra weeks of notice if needed. Tell them you definitely want to visit or babysit the kids.

[Anonymous]

Just tell them your needs have changed. Even if you can’t use them as a reference 5 years will speak for itself. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

The same excuse everyone else gives - you need to care for a sick relative, family issues or moving out of state

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just tell them your needs have changed. Even if you can’t use them as a reference 5 years will speak for itself. Good luck!

No. She needs the good reference. I’d make up some excuse/reason for leaving that didn’t reflect badly on the employer or myself. Like moving, going back to school, taking care of relatives child…

[Anonymous]

I’m in the same position op. I’m extremely burnt out with the family I’ve been with for 4 years. Not sure what I’m going to do.

[Anonymous]

Find your next job first in case they take it badly and let you go on the spot.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear that you are feeling like that but certainly you need to leave that job. But it's nice to you are not leaving for any problems that might be arise. So both parts are finishing in good terms. Ne nice as always I guess you are and just tell them that your needs have changed and you always appreciate them and love your charges and would love to keep having contact with them. Don't feel bad. A nanny just feels when it's time to move on. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the same position op. I’m extremely burnt out with the family I’ve been with for 4 years. Not sure what I’m going to do.

It's hard right?
I feel like I've been extremely stressed and ready to move on.
It's just hard to take the next step,seat down with them and talk.I can't be open about my feelings
with them because in the end of the day they are the reason why I'm leaving.
They are a nice family but weird dynamic and mom feels very guilty to be working full time and make my life miserable because of that.
Father is too involved and both want to know every step I take.
It's overwhelming!
I made up my mind and I'm looking forward to my last day.
I have a lot of love for the kids but unfortunately its time for me to find another family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hear that you are feeling like that but certainly you need to leave that job. But it's nice to you are not leaving for any problems that might be arise. So both parts are finishing in good terms. Ne nice as always I guess you are and just tell them that your needs have changed and you always appreciate them and love your charges and would love to keep having contact with them. Don't feel bad. A nanny just feels when it's time to move on. Good luck.

OP here
Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the same position op. I’m extremely burnt out with the family I’ve been with for 4 years. Not sure what I’m going to do.

It's hard right?
I feel like I've been extremely stressed and ready to move on.
It's just hard to take the next step,seat down with them and talk.I can't be open about my feelings
with them because in the end of the day they are the reason why I'm leaving.
They are a nice family but weird dynamic and mom feels very guilty to be working full time and make my life miserable because of that.
Father is too involved and both want to know every step I take.
It's overwhelming!
I made up my mind and I'm looking forward to my last day.
I have a lot of love for the kids but unfortunately its time for me to find another family.

Wow.. it sounds like they are nice but at the same time they micromanage all the time. If that's the case; I would have quit long time ago. I got totally got you; and probably you must feel like you can't not even breath. This is one of the first reason a nanny quit. Yes, Op. It's time for you to move on. I'm sure you will find a better family who is not always on your back when you breath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the same position op. I’m extremely burnt out with the family I’ve been with for 4 years. Not sure what I’m going to do.

It's hard right?
I feel like I've been extremely stressed and ready to move on.
It's just hard to take the next step,seat down with them and talk.I can't be open about my feelings
with them because in the end of the day they are the reason why I'm leaving.
They are a nice family but weird dynamic and mom feels very guilty to be working full time and make my life miserable because of that.
Father is too involved and both want to know every step I take.
It's overwhelming!
I made up my mind and I'm looking forward to my last day.
I have a lot of love for the kids but unfortunately its time for me to find another family.

Wow.. it sounds like they are nice but at the same time they micromanage all the time. If that's the case; I would have quit long time ago. I got totally got you; and probably you must feel like you can't not even breath. This is one of the first reason a nanny quit. Yes, Op. It's time for you to move on. I'm sure you will find a better family who is not always on your back when you breath.

Thank you so much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m ready to move on with another family.
I feel like my time with the family I’ve been for almost 5 years has come to an end.
Love the kids and the family is nice but my work there has also been very stressful due to the family dynamics and I just feel ready to start a fresh new start.
How can I tell them I’m ready to move on?They have no idea that I feel this way and to be honest I don’t want to explain myself much but at the same time I want to be nice and professional.I’m feeling stuck in my decision because I don’t want to hurt them.

Dear so&so,

This is give you my notice that my last day will 3 weeks from today.

Sincerely

You own no explanation and I would not tell them that you have enjoyed working for them. Nor would I say you will be available for future babysitting.

Be prepared for them to let you go on the spot. If they insist on a reason then just say "it is time to move on
"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just tell them your needs have changed. Even if you can’t use them as a reference 5 years will speak for itself. Good luck!

No. She needs the good reference. I’d make up some excuse/reason for leaving that didn’t reflect badly on the employer or myself. Like moving, going back to school, taking care of relatives child…

OP should have written performance reports from each year as well as a recommendation. The performance reviews can also serve as a recommendation.