Sleeping baby

[Anonymous]

Parent is working from home. Today is my second week and I’ve finally got the baby 4 months put on a schedule. Dad will drop in and comment oh he’s been sleeping an hour and will bang around in kitchen IMO purposely trying to wake him. When I started he was sleeping 3 times a day at 15 minutes each now he’s sleeping 3 times daily for 1-2 hours. How to address this or just let it go?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely address it - " would it be possible to avoid loud sounds such as from the pots and pants in the kitchen during nap time?"

Some parents at really clueless, eh?

-mom here

[Anonymous]

If you think he is doing it on purpose then you need to address sleep as a whole, with BOTH parents.

What are their goals for sleep? Do they want to sleep train/cosleep/some combination? Bring information (from legitimate resources) about sleep needs by age.

I find that often parents who don’t know much about sleep will blame every nighttime sleep regression on “napping too much.” You have to be able to gently educate on how sleep works for infants.

[Anonymous]

Ask them if they could be quiet during nap times, which are from __ to ___, and get a white noise machine for the baby's room.

[Anonymous]

YES to all the advice given above. Definitely talk to both parents.

[Anonymous]

It appears that the Father is purposely trying to get baby to wake up thinking the less baby sleeps while you are there, then the better the baby will sleep at night.

Not always so.
Sleep begets sleep > especially with infants. Zzz…..

I would let him know that you have succeeded in getting baby to sleep better during the day & that you would like baby’s sleep pattern to be more established.
Kindly ask him if he could please be a little more quiet during nap times.
Also ask if they can get baby a white noise machine as well.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parent is working from home. Today is my second week and I’ve finally got the baby 4 months put on a schedule. Dad will drop in and comment oh he’s been sleeping an hour and will bang around in kitchen IMO purposely trying to wake him. When I started he was sleeping 3 times a day at 15 minutes each now he’s sleeping 3 times daily for 1-2 hours. How to address this or just let it go?

To play devil's advocate - are you sure he's trying to wake the baby? My former DB was a heavy walker and noisy. He wasn't trying to wake the kids, but he was completely clueless that opening the squeaky front door 10 feet from a baby in a bassinet would wake the little one up.

[Anonymous]

A lot of new parents seem to think the more they sleep during the day the less they’ll sleep at night.

I’d see if that’s his concern and email some gentle information regarding necessarily daytime sleep for baby.

[Anonymous]

Keep doing what you're doing and help the baby learn to sleep through household noise. It's one more gift you're giving that child and family.

Also, IMO the father is an idiot, but that's beyond your ability to fix!

-MB