Nanny has had all these issues in space of one month, feel she has become unreliable
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Anonymous
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In the past there have been issues with my many but I chalked it up to life stuff.
This month, she has debilitating anxiety and called out the night before on which I had to cancel an appt and pay a fee. My issue with this is that she talked about her anxiety and it makes the children anxious, she’s unaware how it runs off. The previous week it was a stomach bug and I’m letting you know just to be safe. The week before it was the sniffles, which I understand COViD but she’s already wearing a mask, so I wasn’t as concerned getting it from her. This week she was saying she was unsure if she could come Wednesday due to social unrest and now she sprained her ankle. Monday she had to get her tire repaired and was late. She sprained it changing the tire she says after the fix didn’t work after she left the next day. Maybe it’s coincidence but really. I’m extremely sympathetic to her but now she’s telling me just doesn’t know and she’s hoping it’s just a week, again cancel more things on my calendar. Am I crazy? My kids really love her and she’s been with us a few years but she has become soo unreliable. WWYD? I’m thinking of having a pep talk with her. |
Anonymous
| I want to add that we’ve been so kind and generous with her and she’s been so grateful that we haven’t been like others families. We paid her two months straight during the start of the pandemic and I feel like the boundary has been lost and she’s taking advantage. |
Anonymous
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Start the search for a new nanny. You’re situation will not improve.
Signed, A nanny |
Anonymous
+1. She’s taking advantage of you. |
Anonymous
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Schedule a serious talk with her - kids in the other room at a set time. Lay it all out for her and tell her how you’ve been feeling taken advantage of. Be open and honest with your bottom line requirements.
Firing her will hurt your kids. Do everything in your power to make it right before you take that step. A good, serious and honest talk may be all she needs to get back on track. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely sit down and have a serious talk with her. She could be having a bad month but it also sounds like her anxiety is getting the best of her (BTDT). Can you offer her some time off planned? Maybe figure out a way to do part paid part unpaid so she can get her mental health together? |
Anonymous
| The "social unrest" is just over the top. She does not sounds like someone i would want around my children. |
Anonymous
| Just start looking for a new nanny. Your kids will adjust. |
Anonymous
| She sounds like she needs to see a therapist for her anxiety. She probably feels terrible for canceling on you but feels no choice when an anxiety attack strikes. This has been a very bad year for many people. I would encourage her to seek help. With therapy and meds, she may be able to return to a less fearful state. I agree that a candid talk is in order, but it should come from a place of compassion, especially given that you've worked with her for a long time and the kids love her. |
Anonymous
But why make your children “adjust” if you don’t have to? I agree that OP should have a “come to Jesus” talk with her children’s nanny and exhaust all ideas before ripping the beloved nanny from her kids. That said, if the nanny can’t change OP has no choice. |
Anonymous
| She sounds unstable to be honest. I wouldn’t want her in charge of my kids. |
Anonymous
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Your children love this woman and it’s only been one bad month in several good years?
I would have an honest and serious talk with her long before I’d consider firing her. |
Anonymous
Because the nanny is there to make my life easier. |
Anonymous
I disagree. Our nanny is here to care for my children and protect them. My kids come first and I respect their individual relationships with Nanny. Nanny is my employee but my children’s beloved friend/caregiver. |
Anonymous
| How many work days has she missed, OP? |