Patience with rudeness/Hang it up?

[Anonymous]

hello all,

I babysit 3 siblings, one girl and two boys. The youngest has become rude, started talking back, stealing his brother's tablet to watch videos. Then other times he says "you should leave." HEY, that is sounding better by the day! Because I do not let him abuse the computer during class and write nonsense on the screen, he hates me. Parents and I have given him art supplies and paper to stay busy, if he needs to move while teachers are talking. At other times, he is allowed to do exercises, but keep up with class.

I.AM.TIRED.

Babysitting is not just the kids, it also entails making meals, not so bad, but....I think I am just tired of ungrateful children. Most of the other families, the children eat when it is time, clean up after themselves, etc.

Part of me feels sorry for him because he is just an energetic, fidgety little kid. But there are days when he really turns on the ahole behavior--modeled by his older brother and now him. This virtual learning is not his thing, but I am ready to call it a day. I am a babysitter, not a teacher or educator for small kids. He ignores me when I let the children know it is lunchtime, it takes several times before he follows instructions, etc.

The parents have had talks with him, I had multiple talks nicely explaining how we have plans for the day (waking up, brushing our teeth, breakfast, school, lunch time, etc), and that if he had any issues, he could let me know and here to help him.

It is like pulling teeth, he moves slower than an 80- year old man and nothing is urgent to him (unless you mention the computer), or the parents have to tell him. I may have to use the egg timer in the kitchen again...make it a contest. That sometimes works.

[Anonymous]

Just quit and get another gig. You aren’t going to change the child and nannies are in high demand right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just quit and get another gig. You aren’t going to change the child and nannies are in high demand right now.

OP here. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hello all,

I babysit 3 siblings, one girl and two boys. The youngest has become rude, started talking back, stealing his brother's tablet to watch videos. Then other times he says "you should leave." HEY, that is sounding better by the day! Because I do not let him abuse the computer during class and write nonsense on the screen, he hates me. Parents and I have given him art supplies and paper to stay busy, if he needs to move while teachers are talking. At other times, he is allowed to do exercises, but keep up with class.

I.AM.TIRED.

Babysitting is not just the kids, it also entails making meals, not so bad, but....I think I am just tired of ungrateful children. Most of the other families, the children eat when it is time, clean up after themselves, etc.

Part of me feels sorry for him because he is just an energetic, fidgety little kid. But there are days when he really turns on the ahole behavior--modeled by his older brother and now him. This virtual learning is not his thing, but I am ready to call it a day. I am a babysitter, not a teacher or educator for small kids. He ignores me when I let the children know it is lunchtime, it takes several times before he follows instructions, etc.

The parents have had talks with him, I had multiple talks nicely explaining how we have plans for the day (waking up, brushing our teeth, breakfast, school, lunch time, etc), and that if he had any issues, he could let me know and here to help him.

It is like pulling teeth, he moves slower than an 80- year old man and nothing is urgent to him (unless you mention the computer), or the parents have to tell him. I may have to use the egg timer in the kitchen again...make it a contest. That sometimes works.

It doesn't sound like you've made much (any?) attempt to make the routine fun or give the children any choice in anything. Can I ask why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just quit and get another gig. You aren’t going to change the child and nannies are in high demand right now.

+1. Give your notice today. You’ll have a better job by Monday.

[Anonymous]

It is this boy’s responsibility to ensure that he respects you & listens when you tell him to do something.

A parent should never allow their child to mistreat his or her Nanny.
His behavior is 100% unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

*boy’s parents responsibility

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:hello all,

I babysit 3 siblings, one girl and two boys. The youngest has become rude, started talking back, stealing his brother's tablet to watch videos. Then other times he says "you should leave." HEY, that is sounding better by the day! Because I do not let him abuse the computer during class and write nonsense on the screen, he hates me. Parents and I have given him art supplies and paper to stay busy, if he needs to move while teachers are talking. At other times, he is allowed to do exercises, but keep up with class.

I.AM.TIRED.

Babysitting is not just the kids, it also entails making meals, not so bad, but....I think I am just tired of ungrateful children. Most of the other families, the children eat when it is time, clean up after themselves, etc.

Part of me feels sorry for him because he is just an energetic, fidgety little kid. But there are days when he really turns on the ahole behavior--modeled by his older brother and now him. This virtual learning is not his thing, but I am ready to call it a day. I am a babysitter, not a teacher or educator for small kids. He ignores me when I let the children know it is lunchtime, it takes several times before he follows instructions, etc.

The parents have had talks with him, I had multiple talks nicely explaining how we have plans for the day (waking up, brushing our teeth, breakfast, school, lunch time, etc), and that if he had any issues, he could let me know and here to help him.

It is like pulling teeth, he moves slower than an 80- year old man and nothing is urgent to him (unless you mention the computer), or the parents have to tell him. I may have to use the egg timer in the kitchen again...make it a contest. That sometimes works.

It doesn't sound like you've made much (any?) attempt to make the routine fun or give the children any choice in anything. Can I ask why not?

NP. I don’t know where you got any of that from OP’s post. Projecting much?

[Anonymous]

Please communicate all this to the parents. He needs a spanking!

[Anonymous]

Wow. The quality of the nannies on here is just tanking.