Mom authority or nanny confused

[Anonymous]

I am nanny and very confused
The mom asked me to be polite with my kids .
I was little strict now when the kids don’t listen ( I am more soft after mom complain ) she is saying one of us has to take the authority.
What do I have to do ?
Thanks

[Anonymous]

Quit

[Anonymous]

Polite is not related to being strict. You can be polite while being struck. Is she asking you to be more lenient in general?

[Anonymous]

Quit. You don't stand a chance.

[Anonymous]

Yep. Nut mom. I had one once. When their child was a toddler (whom I loved dearly) the mom told me "we don't use the word no in this house". Um ok so if he sticks his finger in a socket I'm supposed to say "please don't do that" . A year later I come in one morning and the mom (who I spoke to in person everyday) leaves my note that DS isn't listening and acting bratty and I needed to up my discipline game. I think that was fourteen years ago and the mom and the son are still probably still sleeping in the same bed and the dad sleeps in the bathtub.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the situation. You can be strict and polite. Nothing wrong with setting an example of using please and thank your specially on the first asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep. Nut mom. I had one once. When their child was a toddler (whom I loved dearly) the mom told me "we don't use the word no in this house". Um ok so if he sticks his finger in a socket I'm supposed to say "please don't do that" . A year later I come in one morning and the mom (who I spoke to in person everyday) leaves my note that DS isn't listening and acting bratty and I needed to up my discipline game. I think that was fourteen years ago and the mom and the son are still probably still sleeping in the same bed and the dad sleeps in the bathtub.

I also worked for a family who told me that they never used the word “no.”
I was instructed to state “No thank you” instead.

Quit that controlling family....

[Anonymous]

Hard to know without knowing exactly what you said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quit. You don't stand a chance.

This!

[Anonymous]

Polite vs rude

Strict vs lenient

They aren’t related. I’m strict and polite. “Larla, you left your shoes by the door. Please take care of them. Thank you, sweetheart.”

Kids know exactly where they stand with me. We can have fun as soon as the requirements are done, but fun ends when someone is rude or misbehaves. And I’m completely open to kids correcting me if I forget to use my manners; I do it on purpose roughly once every week or two, so they feel good about “catching” me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Polite vs rude

Strict vs lenient

They aren’t related. I’m strict and polite. “Larla, you left your shoes by the door. Please take care of them. Thank you, sweetheart.”

Kids know exactly where they stand with me. We can have fun as soon as the requirements are done, but fun ends when someone is rude or misbehaves. And I’m completely open to kids correcting me if I forget to use my manners; I do it on purpose roughly once every week or two, so they feel good about “catching” me.

+1

She wants you to be strict and polite. You were probably being mean while being strict and scaring the children.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to “be polite” to her own darn kids and go find another job OP. I had a similar situation with a mb and we ended up getting into a verbal altercation because she thought she could constantly undermine me while working from home.

These moms will soon learn to appreciate the fact that ANYONE is willing to come to their homes and deal with pandemic risks and them being around as a distraction.


You PARENTS had better learn to take your work stuff and get in the basement or another space and tune out so you won’t lose your childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to “be polite” to her own darn kids and go find another job OP. I had a similar situation with a mb and we ended up getting into a verbal altercation because she thought she could constantly undermine me while working from home.

These moms will soon learn to appreciate the fact that ANYONE is willing to come to their homes and deal with pandemic risks and them being around as a distraction.


You PARENTS had better learn to take your work stuff and get in the basement or another space and tune out so you won’t lose your childcare.

And if you berate children, you’ll find yourself without a job or reference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to “be polite” to her own darn kids and go find another job OP. I had a similar situation with a mb and we ended up getting into a verbal altercation because she thought she could constantly undermine me while working from home.

These moms will soon learn to appreciate the fact that ANYONE is willing to come to their homes and deal with pandemic risks and them being around as a distraction.


You PARENTS had better learn to take your work stuff and get in the basement or another space and tune out so you won’t lose your childcare.

And if you berate children, you’ll find yourself without a job or reference.

I don't berate children. Do you think every nanny who ever worked for a nutjob didn't get a job after that???? Ha ha! And especially now. I find a way to make money tomorrow. Can you find a new nanny tomorrow?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to “be polite” to her own darn kids and go find another job OP. I had a similar situation with a mb and we ended up getting into a verbal altercation because she thought she could constantly undermine me while working from home.

These moms will soon learn to appreciate the fact that ANYONE is willing to come to their homes and deal with pandemic risks and them being around as a distraction.


You PARENTS had better learn to take your work stuff and get in the basement or another space and tune out so you won’t lose your childcare.

And if you berate children, you’ll find yourself without a job or reference.

I don't berate children. Do you think every nanny who ever worked for a nutjob didn't get a job after that???? Ha ha! And especially now. I find a way to make money tomorrow. Can you find a new nanny tomorrow?

I’m a nanny... Parents shouldn’t need to be grateful that just anyone is willing to take care of their children. They have the right to expect that the nanny acts like a nanny.