Quiet time age

[Anonymous]

Till what age do you prefer for child quiet time ?
Thanks

[Anonymous]

Quiet time is important at every age.

[Anonymous]

Yes even if they’re older and come home from school, have them have a snack, few minutes electronics to calm down, then do homework
Younger I think even if 3/4 year olds just play by themselves for 20 min or so, or color or read a book or something

[Anonymous]

All ages.

[Anonymous]

All ages. My 17 month old always has “solitary play” after his lunch while I’m cleaning up and having my lunch. It’s also when he poops so he’ll be easier to potty train in a few months. I’m a very, very engaged nanny but solitary play is important.

[Anonymous]

None

[Anonymous]

Solitary play doesn’t necessarily equate to quiet time or electronics.

I encourage kids to play and entertain themselves for at least 30 seconds by 6 months. It’s very important for creativity, independence and emotional growth.

Quiet time replaces naptime for a child who may still be tired, but who won’t nap or whose parents need nap phased out so the child sleeps at night. It lasts until the child no longer needs the quiet period or until a younger sibling is no longer napping.

Electronics aren’t necessary, ever. When I use electronics, kids earn time. There is no set time every day or week, and there’s no time under 2yo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Solitary play doesn’t necessarily equate to quiet time or electronics.

I encourage kids to play and entertain themselves for at least 30 seconds by 6 months. It’s very important for creativity, independence and emotional growth.

Quiet time replaces naptime for a child who may still be tired, but who won’t nap or whose parents need nap phased out so the child sleeps at night. It lasts until the child no longer needs the quiet period or until a younger sibling is no longer napping.

Electronics aren’t necessary, ever. When I use electronics, kids earn time. There is no set time every day or week, and there’s no time under 2yo.

What’s the difference between solitary play and quiet time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Solitary play doesn’t necessarily equate to quiet time or electronics.

I encourage kids to play and entertain themselves for at least 30 seconds by 6 months. It’s very important for creativity, independence and emotional growth.

Quiet time replaces naptime for a child who may still be tired, but who won’t nap or whose parents need nap phased out so the child sleeps at night. It lasts until the child no longer needs the quiet period or until a younger sibling is no longer napping.

Electronics aren’t necessary, ever. When I use electronics, kids earn time. There is no set time every day or week, and there’s no time under 2yo.

What’s the difference between solitary play and quiet time?

To me?

Quiet time could be reading quietly to a child, playing a quiet game with them, anything that keeps energy and noise down.

Solitary play is anything the child can do by themself. I don’t care how loud or energetic it is. The point is for the child to self-entertain, not do so in a contained way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes even if they’re older and come home from school, have them have a snack, few minutes electronics to calm down, then do homework
Younger I think even if 3/4 year olds just play by themselves for 20 min or so, or color or read a book or something

Why do kids need electronics to calm down?
I am not anti screen but I dont get this................

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Solitary play doesn’t necessarily equate to quiet time or electronics.

I encourage kids to play and entertain themselves for at least 30 seconds by 6 months. It’s very important for creativity, independence and emotional growth.

Quiet time replaces naptime for a child who may still be tired, but who won’t nap or whose parents need nap phased out so the child sleeps at night. It lasts until the child no longer needs the quiet period or until a younger sibling is no longer napping.

Electronics aren’t necessary, ever. When I use electronics, kids earn time. There is no set time every day or week, and there’s no time under 2yo.

What’s the difference between solitary play and quiet time?

Not the PP but quiet time to me is when the kid is in their room playing quietly and you get a break for however long it is. Solitary play or independent play is the kid playing by themselves without input from someone else. Like doing a puzzle or building legos, this could be while you are prepping a meal or cleaning up or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes even if they’re older and come home from school, have them have a snack, few minutes electronics to calm down, then do homework
Younger I think even if 3/4 year olds just play by themselves for 20 min or so, or color or read a book or something

Why do kids need electronics to calm down?
I am not anti screen but I dont get this................

Agreed!

I use screens as tools and incentives, not as an expectation. If it’s required for school, fine. Otherwise, the child earns screentime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Solitary play doesn’t necessarily equate to quiet time or electronics.

I encourage kids to play and entertain themselves for at least 30 seconds by 6 months. It’s very important for creativity, independence and emotional growth.

Quiet time replaces naptime for a child who may still be tired, but who won’t nap or whose parents need nap phased out so the child sleeps at night. It lasts until the child no longer needs the quiet period or until a younger sibling is no longer napping.

Electronics aren’t necessary, ever. When I use electronics, kids earn time. There is no set time every day or week, and there’s no time under 2yo.

What’s the difference between solitary play and quiet time?

Not the PP but quiet time to me is when the kid is in their room playing quietly and you get a break for however long it is. Solitary play or independent play is the kid playing by themselves without input from someone else. Like doing a puzzle or building legos, this could be while you are prepping a meal or cleaning up or something.

See, that’s part of what I don’t understand. I never do quiet time in a child’s room with a goal of having a break for myself. Either the child still needs a quiet period or a sibling still naps. Either way, I’m happy to interact with the child.

As PP stated, I save solitary play for times when I need to do something else (although I encourage kids to help me cook and require them to help with clean up). During that time, I’ve watched kids perfect stage voice, practice singing, talk to themselves/imaginary friends, yell and scream like banshees while pretending they’re chased all over the house, making noises for cars/trucks/whistling teapot, etc. As I said, I don’t care about noise, I care that they’re capable of thinking of something to do on their own and then doing it by themself without help or interaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Solitary play doesn’t necessarily equate to quiet time or electronics.

I encourage kids to play and entertain themselves for at least 30 seconds by 6 months. It’s very important for creativity, independence and emotional growth.

Quiet time replaces naptime for a child who may still be tired, but who won’t nap or whose parents need nap phased out so the child sleeps at night. It lasts until the child no longer needs the quiet period or until a younger sibling is no longer napping.

Electronics aren’t necessary, ever. When I use electronics, kids earn time. There is no set time every day or week, and there’s no time under 2yo.

What’s the difference between solitary play and quiet time?

Not the PP but quiet time to me is when the kid is in their room playing quietly and you get a break for however long it is. Solitary play or independent play is the kid playing by themselves without input from someone else. Like doing a puzzle or building legos, this could be while you are prepping a meal or cleaning up or something.

See, that’s part of what I don’t understand. I never do quiet time in a child’s room with a goal of having a break for myself. Either the child still needs a quiet period or a sibling still naps. Either way, I’m happy to interact with the child.

As PP stated, I save solitary play for times when I need to do something else (although I encourage kids to help me cook and require them to help with clean up). During that time, I’ve watched kids perfect stage voice, practice singing, talk to themselves/imaginary friends, yell and scream like banshees while pretending they’re chased all over the house, making noises for cars/trucks/whistling teapot, etc. As I said, I don’t care about noise, I care that they’re capable of thinking of something to do on their own and then doing it by themself without help or interaction.

Thats great for you. But I worked 11 hours a day. By 1pm after 6.5 hours of being " on" and interacting with 2 children I had some downtime and so did they and we all regrouped for the afternoon. They had an hour in their room. I was with them the other 10. I did not throw screens at them so they could have " calm down" time either, We were busy doing things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Solitary play doesn’t necessarily equate to quiet time or electronics.

I encourage kids to play and entertain themselves for at least 30 seconds by 6 months. It’s very important for creativity, independence and emotional growth.

Quiet time replaces naptime for a child who may still be tired, but who won’t nap or whose parents need nap phased out so the child sleeps at night. It lasts until the child no longer needs the quiet period or until a younger sibling is no longer napping.

Electronics aren’t necessary, ever. When I use electronics, kids earn time. There is no set time every day or week, and there’s no time under 2yo.

What’s the difference between solitary play and quiet time?

Not the PP but quiet time to me is when the kid is in their room playing quietly and you get a break for however long it is. Solitary play or independent play is the kid playing by themselves without input from someone else. Like doing a puzzle or building legos, this could be while you are prepping a meal or cleaning up or something.

See, that’s part of what I don’t understand. I never do quiet time in a child’s room with a goal of having a break for myself. Either the child still needs a quiet period or a sibling still naps. Either way, I’m happy to interact with the child.

As PP stated, I save solitary play for times when I need to do something else (although I encourage kids to help me cook and require them to help with clean up). During that time, I’ve watched kids perfect stage voice, practice singing, talk to themselves/imaginary friends, yell and scream like banshees while pretending they’re chased all over the house, making noises for cars/trucks/whistling teapot, etc. As I said, I don’t care about noise, I care that they’re capable of thinking of something to do on their own and then doing it by themself without help or interaction.

Thats great for you. But I worked 11 hours a day. By 1pm after 6.5 hours of being " on" and interacting with 2 children I had some downtime and so did they and we all regrouped for the afternoon. They had an hour in their room. I was with them the other 10. I did not throw screens at them so they could have " calm down" time either, We were busy doing things.

Over the years, I’ve worked with several families of 3+ children. My typical work day varies, but start time is usually between 5 and 6am, end time is usually between 6.30 and 9pm. So yeah, I understand long hours. I just don’t think that it’s necessary to tell kids to go their rooms so that I can take a (paid) hour long break. Ymmv.