How can I find out/talk to the former nanny?

[Anonymous]

I’m currently the nanny for a 4 year old and seven month old. The old nanny was with my older charge for 3 years and something happened.

How could I find out who she is without my MB finding out?

[Anonymous]

It will be next to impossible to find out who she is w/out your current MomBoss finding out.

Because if you ask around - someone will likely relay this info to her.

And if you got lucky enough to actually speak w/her directly, chances are that she will contact your MomBoss to inquire why you contacted her.

Could you just ask your MomBoss directly?
If you do & she doesn’t tell you what occurred then that is a red flag that she may have done something that was shady at the time.

I suggest you ask her directly.

[Anonymous]

Just ask your employer. Employers should provide “references” as well.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care? You’ve already accepted the job.

[Anonymous]

Any nannies you know around when the old nanny was working for them? What about preschool or class teachers? Story time librarians? Stay away from employers friends and family.

[Anonymous]

Why do you need to know this OP? It's most likely none of your business. The former nanny could have left for any number of reasons of her own wishes, or she could have been fired for cause, or she might not have been as capable with toddlers/preschoolers as she was with infants, etc...

It's a perfectly reasonable and appropriate question to ask prospective employers why they're looking, what ended the former nanny's employment, etc... But to go digging now, especially behind your employer's back, doesn't look good at all.

[Anonymous]

Why shouldn’t OP be encouraged to talk to the previous nanny? I don’t get the secrecy aspect of some of the comments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care? You’ve already accepted the job.

+1. How is the job going?

[Anonymous]

When interviewing parents it’s important to ask about speaking with former caregivers.

You need to know what kind of employers they are, and if they pay on time.

[Anonymous]

If you’re still in the interview stage, it’s completely appropriate to ask. If you’ve accepted the job, but haven’t started, it’s iffy. If you’ve already started, leave it alone.

If you think the nanny left because the family did something, just introduce yourself as the family’s nanny to several people and wait to see if they something. Don’t ask though!